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January 27th, 2009 · 6 Comments

Relationship Age Gap

People are always wondering what is an acceptable age gap for relationships. Many couples are worried about how their friends and family will perceive their relationship if the age gap between them is too wide. My wife is 10 years younger then me but women tend to mature much faster then men in most cases so I don’t feel the age difference much. I am in my late 30’s now and when I was in my 20’s I dated women my age or maybe a few years younger. Some of the more important things that you should be focused on instead of any age differences is to make sure your motives and goals for your relationship are inline with each other. I didn’t date my wife because she was much younger then me, we had a lot of common interests and connected on an emotional level because of past life experiences.

If you are in your teens still and dating a man or woman much older then you then you just need to make sure that you are not doing it for the wrong reasons. If you are a younger woman and feel that an older man is more mature and gives you more stability in your relationship then there is probably not any problem with this type of relationship. One issue I have seen with relationships where there is a wide age gap is that typically (not all of the time though) the older person is in the mode or mind set to settle down and the younger person wants to go out and still explore. I have seen some of these situations turn into jealous relationships where the older person will try to command all of the time spent together and suffocate their partner and this can be unhealthy if that is not what the other person is wanting in the relationship.

In the end if you are in love with your partner and not their age then you will have a healthy relationship together and shouldn’t worry about any social criticisms that might occur. Hey, if they can do it in Hollywood and make it work with Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes and with Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher which both have a 16 year age gap then your friends and family should accept your relationship too. If you have a unique situation that you would like to share or get advice on post your comments below.

-Brian R.

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6 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Peter Brown // Feb 5, 2009 at 11:52 AM

    I am in a relationship with a woman 30 years younger than me. I am 61 she is 30. Will this, can this last? We are both saggitarians. I am not wealthy. We have lived together for 3 months.

    Thanks

  • 2 lilian // Mar 4, 2009 at 7:19 AM

    there was a man who wanted to marry me and he is 50 years old and iam 22

  • 3 Peter Sjöberg // Aug 24, 2009 at 3:00 AM

    For me it would be nice with a younger female… I am 45 and she should be 20 -35… dont think thats to bad

  • 4 Davey // Nov 8, 2009 at 6:44 AM

    Hi. Am 65, former teacher, now retired, but I don’t look it, feel it, or act my age, at times. Do want a younger female from 30 to 50, who is very feminine, shapely, buxom, mature, trustworthy, responsible, caring, d/d-free, no-marriage, livein, and fun to be with. I’m a pisces; want an earth or water sign.

  • 5 kimberley // Oct 18, 2010 at 10:12 PM

    I was only 16 years old when I fell in love with a 37-year old man and we went out for 1 year and 8 months but I had to end it because of his behaviour, he was controlling me and my family, he always wanted to know what I was doing and where I was all the time, mean to my mum, losing his tempter over little things and much more… now I know not to go out with someone where there’s a big age gap. I’m almost 18 and the relationship has been over for 2 months and I’m a lot happier now. I hope to find someone who isn’t like that, who is caring, lovable, sweet and so on.

  • 6 James // Mar 11, 2011 at 2:05 PM

    I am a 35 year old male who is married to a 49 year old woman. We were attracted to one another based on our goals and dreams we have in life…and the physical. I experience the same you mentioned in your article where she wants to command all the free time. I am more of a loner and she is a social butterfly. I can adapt to public situations and be sociable, but after working two jobs and running a part-time business I’m tired and just want to sit on the couch and play video games or watch ESPN. She feels such activities are a waste of a grown man’s time and would prefer I work more.

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