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• 1 isaac // Dec 14, 2008 at 11:49 AM

  Dear Sirs,

  I’m only 12 and I just got told that my girlfriend kissed someone else while playing a game of dares and I just feel exposed and betrayed and I don’t know what to do. I know it was a dare and I’m sure she didn’t mean it but he was older and that just leaves me worried that he might come back and try get more than she bargained for and hurt her or something and I’m just worried sick. Please write back or email me with an answer to my dilemmas.

  -Isaac

• 2 ian trent // Dec 31, 2008 at 9:16 PM

  my girlfriend cheated on me. I never really had trust in her anymore after that but I still love her. But I know it will never be the same

• 3 Mind Over Matter // Jan 8, 2009 at 2:11 AM

  Anybody who cheats should kill him/herself.

• 4 Dennis // Jan 20, 2009 at 12:47 AM

  People should stop cheating on each other and keep their promises.

• 5 Raul // Jan 25, 2009 at 7:22 AM

  There is no need to cheat in a relationship i just found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I feel like she took a piece of my heart. You can’t be with two people at the same time and say you love one and want to be with the other one.

• 6 Sam // Jan 27, 2009 at 7:38 AM

  Hi my girlfriend cheated on me thinking I would not find out myself but I proved her wrong by confronting the guy she was dating and we called her and talked to her. But I still love her so much.

• 7 Emmy // Feb 6, 2009 at 7:08 PM

  My boyfriend of two years had sex with another girl twice.
  He’s being extremely sincere about it.
  I know deep down I have hope of one day being with him again. I hope he will be the guy of my dreams as he once was.
  Though, He did lie about it for a month and I had to figure it out from his friend.
  He even denied it for a little while.
  I dont know whether to believe him.
  He has lied and hurt me plenty of times but has never gone this far.
  I’m in love with him and he says that he’s still in love with me.
  I’m scared and I really need help.

• 8 oneilia // Feb 13, 2009 at 7:47 PM

  my boyfriend cheated when we just met by kissing another girl and now hes cheating on me again. i am only 14yrs old and i am madly in love with this guy he treats me the best i don’t get to go on dates with him but we talk a lot over the phone he talks about my education and he doesn’t want anything physical he is my first and i want him to be my last please tell me what to do.

• 9 Chan // Feb 17, 2009 at 8:12 PM

  My girlfriend cheated on me and it’s hard to ever think of us reall being together but it gets worse because right now we live together and I have no where to go. I don’t know how to deal

• 10 jerry // Feb 25, 2009 at 9:24 AM

  well my girlfriend cheated on me 2 or 3 day after we went out by having sexy with another guy. i never really would have expected that from her n the only reason she told me was because she thought she was pregnant from him. i didnt brake up with her cuz i thought it was mine but now it turns out that she not but ever sense i we have been talking about it n she told me when we went out she didnt care about anything but know she said she cant live with out me cuz i changed her n treated her the best like no other guy. i lover her so much but i dont know wat to do because everything she tells me i think she is lying to me but at the same time i dont so plz Email me n give some advice

• 11 john // Feb 25, 2009 at 9:45 PM

  My girl went to Jamaica and cheated with bartender she was only there for 7 days. What should I do now that my girl cheated on me?

• 12 Matt // Mar 2, 2009 at 12:24 PM

  I broke up with my girlfriend and i still loved her but needed space. She is not a whore, but choose to screw like 5 other guys when we broke up. I still love her and she says she wants to be together but i dont know if i can get over the kind of person she choose to be when we werent dating…..HELP plz

• 13 Dylan // Mar 3, 2009 at 5:56 AM

  Im 14yrs old. I have a girlfriend who i am truly in love with. Thimg is, i told her i loved her and she said it back. I told her again and she said it back. She was lying. She cheated on me the other day by going out with 2 16yr old guys. Im worried sick that this could ruin my relationship. Im also worried that she might get hurt. I mean, it’s 2 16yr olds that can drive and see her anytime they want, and what if she refuses to give them what they want and they decide to take what they want or punish her for not giving it to them. Please help me…I have no idea what i can do to save myself and her.

• 14 mary // Mar 7, 2009 at 6:35 PM

  okay i like this boy we known eachother almost a month already. But before he wanted to be offical to be in a relationship. Before he didn’t want to rush into things so i agreed on the same. But then he broke up with me the next day and said he wan’t ready and that he doesn’t wants to break my heart. We are still talking and etc but we act just like a couple and we are not he went to my house before and met my parents and then i went to his house. I am not dumb to “do it” with him. But like i seen on his myspace page this girl he has he talks to and she writes “do you tell all those girls that?” he has a habit of saying the sweetest stuff but to me it’s sweetalking to confuse the girl. So i asked him does he talks to other girls so i don’t have to waste my time waiting for him to be a couple. He does want us to be offical he keeps giving me hints about us in a relationship so idk???

• 15 admin // Mar 9, 2009 at 9:57 AM

  Sounds like he is just string you along. I would just ignore him a bit and keep your options open. Men don’t like competition and if he thinks that you might not be interested in him anymore then maybe he’ll stop playing the field and settle down. Anyone who breaks up a day after making a commitment is a bit confused. Take a couple steps back and it’ll start to be a little clearer as to what his intentions are.

• 16 Chris // Mar 11, 2009 at 10:41 PM

  My girlfriend cheated on me after 7 months of dating pretty much, we were doing pretty good and everything… But she liked this other guy and she never really told me about it, she always pointed him out in the halls and said that she hated the guy… But one night she got drunk with him and slept with him… She told me Monday and then broke up with me… I still love her but she wants to be friends… But she told me that shes going out with him now, and I don’t quite think I can stay with her (friendship wise) anymore, I love her and if I can’t have her as a girlfriend then I don’t think I want her as a friend… It would go against my… I can’t remember what its called… It would go against what I feel for her. But if she wants this guy and shes happy with him then I will be happy for her… I just need help on what I should do now, because im at a loss right now and I have no idea what to do… Im very open and tomorrow I think I will just tell her what I just told all of you, hopefully it will get better.

• 17 Raymond // Mar 17, 2009 at 5:34 AM

  Look I don’t want a response but I have a girl for a year and 4 months… I found out she sorta cheated on me and it hurt but I loved her so much I just wanted to work through it, we did and got back together then in 4 days she said she didn’t want to be together but she couldn’t breakup with me so I wanted her to be happy, so I did it for her ….. I’m devastated, hurt and just can get her outta my mind so no matter what you say I’ll love her forever and I’ll never forget her and I’m always going to try to get her back.

• 18 Heartbroken // Mar 24, 2009 at 1:21 AM

  My girlfriend of one year and 3 months cheated on me. I know there was absolutely no reason for her to be unhappy with our relationship, but she did it anyways. I will never forget this hurt and betrayal. I just needed to get this off my chest.

• 19 Kimm // Mar 25, 2009 at 2:57 PM

  Okay I was out with this guy and although I didn’t fully trust him as I knew before I got with him he had more then one girl on the go. Thing is a week into the relationship he kisses another girl he thinks I dunno. Turns out I do and I confront him about it and he says “There’s nothing to say about it”. I then agreed to stay with him but after leaving to go home I get a text saying “It’s over that he can’t just be with one person”. Then today , the next day after, he asks to meet up with me to make amends. He goes on about how he can’t just be with me and asks me what I want to do about us. I love him but I’m furious with him and I dunno what to do. Worse of all after all this I let him kiss me and now I’m kicking myself for it. What should I do? I wanna be with him but not with all the other girls as well. help!

• 20 admin // Mar 25, 2009 at 3:07 PM

  Kim – I would tread lightly here with this guy and maybe take out the emotional part so you don’t fall head over heals with him and just end up hurt in the end. If you like being with him and don’t mind the exclusivity bit then just have a little fun with it but if you are seriously bothered by him being with other girls then end it now on the physical side of things even with the kissing. He might need a little time to mature and realize that he can’t be in a real relationship and play these games. At least he is being honest with you now that you caught him about not wanting to be with only one person. I think that is a big enough signal that things might just not work out right now.

• 21 Sarah // Apr 15, 2009 at 2:04 PM

  My boyfriend got really drunk, and nearly slept with another woman. Before it got to full intercourse, he stopped it and said he couldn’t go through with it, because he was with me. However, he still slept in her bed, and cuddled with her until the morning, because he said he ‘felt sorry’ for her. She was a total Stranger. He doesn’t know why he did it, and can barely remember much of it as he was so drunk ( he rarely drinks). I don’t know what to think- I’m still here, but only just. Is this any different than it would be if he had properly slept with her, and not given into his conscience?

• 22 admin // Apr 15, 2009 at 3:42 PM

  I wouldn’t let the “I was so drunk” excuse go for this one. It is one thing to get super wasted and make out with a girl or grind on them on the dance floor but going home with them crosses all boundaries and whomever he was drinking with should have been looking out for him and making sure something like this would happen. If he says that he only slept in her bed he is just softening the blow to you. I would just make sure he used a condom if you are sticking around.

• 23 joel // Apr 15, 2009 at 3:43 PM

  Hi, my name is Joel and I live in florida but I just moved away from my girlfriend that lives in New Jersey and I recently found out for the first time ever that she cheated on me. Some guy messed around with her and I asked her why she didn’t stop him and she said she was caught up in the moment. We’re both very much in love with each other and I can’t stand not being with her but I’m going back and I need some wise words of what to do. Please help?

• 24 Love Guru // Apr 15, 2009 at 4:00 PM

  Joel – the big issue here is the long distance relationship that you guys are trying to maintain. She sounds like she is needy for intimacy so you need to make the decision to either move back to be closer to her or accept that she will continue to cheat on you without no real excuse except that she needs to be fulfilled physically in your absence. If you are okay with an open relationship then you just need to make sure that you don’t get jealous when this is happening and that she is protecting herself.

• 25 Brad // Apr 16, 2009 at 7:45 AM

  Hi – About 6 months ago I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with her boss. We stayed together and I have asked here to leave her job and she still hasn’t. To be honest my problem is that I don’t know if I love her. Don’t worry I need more help than this can give me.

• 26 juan // Apr 16, 2009 at 11:26 AM

  I use to be a player ass gang member that like to go out with a lot of girls n played them all then came a short beautiful short chunky girl that change my life around I stopped gangbangin n stop being a player she took me in as a player n risked it just so she could love me n then I got played all crazy I did not break up with her n it was hard but if u love someone n if they r sorry they deserve 1 last chance.

• 27 Love Guru // Apr 16, 2009 at 11:38 AM

  Brad – I think all of the writing on the wall is here with this one. You probably don’t feel like you love her because of this betrayal. I would cut your loses here so you don’t waste anymore of your life in this relationship. I stayed in a 6 year relationship that I should have ended after 3 years. Life is too short and there are way too many women out there to be hung up on this one. She has shown you her cards and you need to make a move now.

• 28 Guy Hearm // Apr 30, 2009 at 7:40 PM

  If a girl/guy cheats on you, break up with them. If my girl ever cheated on me I would just tell her to beat it. I always worry about her cheating on me. Maybe its because I am OCD and can’t stop obsessing over stupid minute details. Once a cheater always a cheater, if you want to get cheated on and your heart broken again, keep dating him/her. If not, break up with them! If they cheat on you it means they obviously don’t love you anyway. Find someone who really cares.

• 29 charlotte // May 7, 2009 at 5:55 AM

  Hi, my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend he has sexual intercourse with her and said that was it but I still think he had sex with her, but she denies it all. He always says sorry but there has been other times I’ve caught him texting other girls under boys names in his phone. I’m also 6 months pregnant with his baby and I’m really scared. What should I do? I love him so much I just don’t think he loves me. Please help?

• 30 Love Guru // May 7, 2009 at 6:12 PM

  First of all you really need to get down to the bottom of the truth with your best friend and have a heart to heart with her and if you feel that she is really lying then you need to distance yourself from her. You don’t need friends like that around you. As far as your baby’s daddy goes, you also need to sit down with him and his family to see how committed and mature he is going to be with your relationship from this point on so you don’t put yourself out there emotionally without the same feelings in return.

• 31 Daniel // May 9, 2009 at 7:46 PM

  I’m in love with this girl and I’m still with her…but last year she cheated on me with her ex and when she told me I overreacted and broke up with her. It broke my heart. She cried a lot. She’s really sensitive too which means she cries easily. Well after this happened a week later it was my birthday and on that day she went back out with her ex (the one she cheated with) and when I found out I was extremely furious and it broke my heart. Over the summer I tried to get back with her but I realized it wasn’t going to happen because she was choosing her new boyfriend over me. I had to go to Mexico for 3 and half weeks and when I got back I have found out that she still had feelings for me and cried and cried because she wanted me back. She couldn’t do it because she was still with her boyfriend. Then one time I went to her house to give her a late present and I kissed her. I thought she was going to pull away but she kissed me back..we were kissing for a lot like if we have never kissed…I was really happy. I remember when I saw her it made me feel happy but after 2 months he broke up with her. I knew the whole time he was playing her and I tried telling her but she didn’t believe me. I remember being there for her when it broke her heart. We went back out but not for long because she wanted to go back out with her ex and she broke up with me. It broke my heart once again. I thought we were done for real now but a month later I found out she broke up with me because she thought I was cheating on her because of a myspace comment she saw me talking with this girl and somebody messaged her saying that I had sex with this other girl. It wasn’t true though and she got back with me 2 days later after New Years. She realized I was the one she needed and that she loved me. Her ex tried to get back with her but she resisted. She has proven to me that she will never do that again but now I’m the one causing problems. I always call her a ho and a bitch because every time I remember what she did. It kills me and it makes her cry a lot. Right now me and my girl are in a fight about this again as I’m writing this comment. I just need a way to forget about the past, just a way. That’s all I want.

• 32 Love Guru // May 12, 2009 at 3:50 PM

  Wow Daniel. Sounds like an emotional roller coaster but one that you signed up to be on. You need to understand that when your girl was getting back with her ex and breaking up with you that she was not decided yet on where her feelings and heart was. This happens a lot in relationships and you can’t force the issue. The more you push the further the person will be from you. You can’t look at the past as her cheating on you as she was torn between the two of you. You need to let her know that you fully forgive her so that you can enjoy your relationship otherwise you are just going to drive yourself crazy over it. You have endured this long so don’t just waste it if you really have feelings for her and just can’t be a man about it and take your ego out of the equation.

• 33 a man torn apart // May 13, 2009 at 9:49 PM

  It’s really hard to talk about this. She was everything I wanted and so much more. We always talked about how great our lives are gonna be together. How beautiful our children will be when we have them. Hell we even picked out names. At that point I fell in love. Blinded by it so much I did not know of the terrible terrible pain that was to come. I’m from Florida but I met her in North Carolina. I left in december & told her I will be back for her at the end of May. We went out for 10 months but she told me she cheated around 2 months ago. I forgave her because I believe in 2nd chances & I stilled loved her with every ounce of my being. A month later everything turns to hell & pure pain. She tells me she is pregnant with his kid. To top it off they are cousins but they did not know at the time. It hurts so much. Whats more, shortly before she told me that, I had bought her a ring which it doesn’t take a scientist to know what I was going to do with it. Do you know how much balls it takes to ask that kind of question. She hurt me so bad, I still love her but now this baby is between us. All my beliefs about love & life burned in my skull in that moment. I still want to be with her but I do not want to raise a baby that belongs to the man that cheated with my girl. Please I am drained from depression and need immediate guidance.

• 34 Love Guru // May 14, 2009 at 10:47 PM

  My real honest advice to you is to move on and leave this relationship behind as a lesson and to not continue to let it emotionally drain you. She probably knew of her pregnancy which is why she felt inclined to tell you that she had cheated on you. It’ll take a little time for you to get over this but in the end you should come out having learned a positive lesson from this relationship. The important piece to take away from this experience is that not all women are cheats so don’t go into your next relationship scarred by this experience but to just take a little more time getting to really know your partner.

• 35 griffin // May 18, 2009 at 4:09 PM

  yea, my girlfriend cheated on me a week ago was at the bar and got trashed, went back to a friends house and slept with him the next morning she tells me right away and is deeply deeply embarrassed and ashamed of herself. I believe she is sorry for what she did, but where do we take our relationship now?? plz help

• 36 Love Guru // May 20, 2009 at 1:44 AM

  The good part of this story is that she was honest right away and didn’t hide this from you but the bad part is that you guys are left with the reality that she just slept with some guy. If she knew who the guy was then it might be a larger issue but if it was a random person she met in the bar and you are okay with forgiving her then make sure you fully forgive her otherwise this will continue to eat away at your relationship.

• 37 Lara // Jun 7, 2009 at 6:11 PM

  My boyfriend cheated on me and I don’t know what to do, I love him and he loves me. But I don’t know if it’s worthwhile still being with him, when the trust that we had is now broken. I feel like I want to trust him, but I don’t know if I can. Please help me
  Lara

• 38 Love Guru // Jun 12, 2009 at 1:09 PM

  Lara – You should have a very serious conversation to understand why he cheated on you so you can make a determination on whether you think it will happen again and if that is the case then you might want to end the relationship for a little while to teach him a lesson. Tell him to put himself in your seat and see how he would feel it you do that to him.

• 39 sotiredofthis // Jun 17, 2009 at 8:19 PM

  My boyfriend is a sneaky person……he lies all the time. About 90% of the stuff that come out of his mouth is a lie. He has cheated with a number of women but lately he is chatting with women online on dating sites and txting them on his phone. I don’t know if he is having sex with these women or just talking dirty to them. I don’t know if he’s even met these women or not. He tells them on the phone that when he gets his car fixed he’ll come see them. They txt all during the morning, “Hey boo…I miss you boo” and he’ll txt back the same. I don’t understand why he’s doing this. Everyday he looks me in the face and says “He loves me, I’m the only one for him, I’m his wife” but when I leave or am out of his sight he’s doing this.

• 40 Claire // Jun 29, 2009 at 6:44 AM

  I am in a long distance relationship with a wonderful caring guy, accidentally I found out his e-mail password and seen an e-mail from his ex that he is still friends with. From this I have now checked regularly as she is trying to get back with him and they have a friends with benefit thing going on. He always avoids the truth were she is concerned and I have voiced my concerns over their relationship and he said he would cut down on seeing her if it helped. Unfortunately I know that he is planning on hiking with her at the weekend. What should I do, he tells me I am everything to him and he loves me and we have started planning a future together. Should I e-mail her and tell her that she should move on, she had her chance with him? She relies on him far too much as far as I am concerned. I am drained from it all and of course cannot tell him that I know his password (I know this is an unforgivable thing to do). I love him so much and I am planning on moving to be with him. Please help, I’ve lost loads of weight over this.

• 41 Love Guru // Jun 29, 2009 at 9:14 AM

  You don’t have to tell him that you found his password but tell him that you are uncomfortable with him seeing or talking to his ex. The biggest issue here is his need for intimacy because your relationship is long distance. I am sure that if you were closer to him and top of mind that the situation would be different. I wouldn’t suggest emailing her even though the impulse to do so is so strong. She’ll then use this against you. Guys will in most cases fall for the friends with benefits thing every time because it is low hanging fruit and doesn’t take much maintenance that real relationships do.

• 42 chunky monkey // Jul 1, 2009 at 1:23 PM

  I got an email from a girl I’ve only met once. She told me to call her so I did. She told me that my bf of almost a year cheated on me while I was out of town with one of my best friends and that she went to the doctor this morning to get an abortion. She was pregnant with twins. 6 weeks. So I told my bf I know and he told me it wasn’t his fault and that he loves me more than anything else. I’m so hurt that he didn’t tell me ‘cuz i had to hear it from someone I hardly know and I don’t know what I want to do. He has texted his ex and told her how he misses her and how he wishes he could help her with her sexual needs and he sent pics of “himself” if you get my meaning to someone he doesn’t even know that he met on the internet. Now this. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I feel like I’m not worth anything at all and that other women are so much better than me. What do I do? I love him so much but I feel like he doesn’t love me or want me around. If he did he wouldn’t be hurting me like this. What do I do?

• 43 Love Guru // Jul 1, 2009 at 1:34 PM

  First of all do not feel like you are at fault at all in this mess. How can he say it is not his fault that he pulled out his penis and had unprotected sex with another girl and got her pregnant. Sounds like he has developed a track record of this type of behavior. The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself and break up with this guy immediately before you send the wrong message to him that it is okay to be doing this to women. Do not text or call him no matter how sad you might be feeling. Let him call you and you can decide whether you want to talk to him and work things out. If you call him then you are just putting yourself more out there for more relationship abuse.

• 44 chunky monkey // Jul 1, 2009 at 1:50 PM

  And I’m pregnant. Should I still talk to him after I leave just cuz of the baby? Or do I just shut him out? I really love him and I’m scared if I don’t stop talking to him I’m just going to be continuously hurt.

• 45 Love Guru // Jul 1, 2009 at 1:59 PM

  That makes it more complex for sure. You don’t want to shut him out totally. You just need a little time to work this out in your head and set your emotions aside. You can still love someone but don’t have to be with them. You need to think about what is going to be best for you and your baby. Give him a little time to think about the mess he just created and be adult about your actions on how you are handling this situation.

• 46 Izzy // Jul 2, 2009 at 6:57 AM

  My girlfriend cheated on me three times, once in London because she felt lonely, another time with her friend who she never wanted to get physical with, and lastly with one of my friends, and they made out in his car. There was nothing more than making out and she tells me that she gets caught up in the moment and can’t help herself, but once she’s in the middle of it she realizes she’s making a big mistake, and she told me about all three of them when they happened, I’m deeply in love with her, and she is deeply in love with me, we started to fool around but I couldn’t help think that that guy probably did this exact thing to her. What am I supposed to do now?

• 47 Love Guru // Aug 3, 2009 at 2:35 PM

  Sounds like you guys are in a pretty casual relationship and not “deeply in love” each other. People that are deeply in love don’t act that way and she might need to just grow up a little bit more and if you are fine with waiting around for it to possibly happen and don’t mind the mental anguish then go right ahead but my advice to you is to keep it casual with her until she is ready to commit to your relationship fully.

• 48 rad_shifter@yahoo.com // Aug 3, 2009 at 2:36 PM

  My GF admits cheating on me I forgive her but she still blames me for what she did because I did not pay enough attention to her and that @$$hole which is her co-worker takes advantage of our misunderstanding and she also admits that she kissed the guy and regrets doing that. WTF should i do?

• 49 Love Guru // Aug 3, 2009 at 2:43 PM

  This sounds like a pretty common incident where people that are feeling neglected in a relationship will sometime confide in co-workers about their problems and a lot of times they have their own hidden agendas. I would tell her that if she has any issues with you to talk directly to you about it and if she needs to take a break to think about things then to do that instead of cheating and breaking your trust.

• 50 Broken // Aug 13, 2009 at 1:17 AM

  i have been going out with a girl for 10 months now
  i love her to bits but she got drunk and went to 3rd base with one of my oldest friends 4 days after i left on a holiday
  she begged for forgiveness, and whilst it still hurts even now, i gave her it and we are still together
  however since i have come back shes been completely taking advantage of me and disregarding my feelings and i dont know if she loves me anymore
  doesnt help shes an excellent actress and knows it :/
  i want to get her to somehow prove she loves me, but i dont know how or what
  needed to get that one off my chest lol
  please help
  x

• 51 Waterflows // Aug 20, 2009 at 10:37 AM

  Hi..My GF of 4 years just informed me that she cheated a week and a half ago. She could look me in the eyes. She is very emotional so she was crying a lot. We have been trying to do this long distance relationship but she just spoiled it. She said she was feeling lonely and needed somebody. She is a great person if you meet her. She has to start school by September in another city and she’s telling me that she wants to come back and that she can’t do this thing. I hate the feeling of betrayal but I really do care about her. The worst thing is that I bought her a ring recently which she knows about and she still cheated. I was trying my best to keep the interest high. I was supposed to go see her beginning of August but I didn’t make it which made her mum hate me. I know I have a lot ahead of me. Should I go ahead and forgive her and make her come back or let her go. Should I cut her out? Should I test it out for the second time? She even said the condom broke.

• 52 Love Guru // Aug 20, 2009 at 10:45 AM

  Waterflows – Sounds like you might want to just let her go. You can still have feelings for her but if she can’t stand to be alone and you guys are in a long distance relationship then it’ll keep happening. You don’t want to have her come back if she is away for school. There might be a time later in life where things might work out for you guys better. Keep the friendship if you value it and don’t be a nut case that she cheated as it is a pretty common thing with long distance relationships. Be happy that she actually told you and that you didn’t hear about it 2nd hand.

• 53 larry // Aug 29, 2009 at 4:51 PM

  we are 4 years in this relationship and my girlfriend cheated on me 2month ago JUST BECAUSE SHE GOT ADVICE FROM A FRIEND SIMPLY BECAUSE I DONT HAVE A JOB to earn aliving she has being the one taking the resposibilty,NOW SHE IS REGRETTING IT ,asking for my forginess that upon what she was adviced to do she got nothing in return AND I STILL LOVE HER PLS WHAT DO I DO EMAIL me pls

• 54 rami // Aug 30, 2009 at 7:30 PM

  My girlfriend cheated on me after 7 months of dating pretty much, we were doing pretty good and everything… But she liked this other guy and she never really told me about it, she always pointed him out in the halls and said that she hated the guy… But one night she got drunk with him and slept with him… She told me Monday and then broke up with me… I still love her but she wants to be friends… But she told me that shes going out with him now, and I don’t quite think I can stay with her (friendship wise) anymore, I love her and if I can’t have her as a girlfriend then I don’t think I want her as a friend… It would go against my… I can’t remember what its called… It would go against what I feel for her. But if she wants this guy and shes happy with him then I will be happy for her… I just need help on what I should do now, because im at a loss right now and I have no idea what to do…?????

• 55 confuse // Sep 7, 2009 at 12:32 AM

  Dear Sir,

  Just recently I found out my 2years girlfriend sms-ing and calling another guy. at first, she keep telling me “he” is a female friend and I found suspecious and call the number and found out he is a guy. I approached her and she told me that she treated him as just a little brother (she is 26 and he is 21) and never told me because she knew that I will not accept she has a male friend. from her conversation, I can feel that she easy going and happy when chatting with this guy and she told me that we we had arguement and when she not happy, she will call this guy, crying on the phone.. i was so hurt when I knew this and I really cannot accept the facts eventhough she told me she love me and there is no relationship between them. She felt very bad for cheating me and sak for forgiveness and assure me that she will not contact with this guy anymore. I told her I love her and forgive her but deep inside my heart, I cannot trust her anymore. Sometimes, this guy will met her after she knock off and now, I was so affraid that he will see her again and I wanted everyday to fetch her after she knock off but I can’t. Pls tell me what to do? I’m really confuse.. I forgive her but I’m keep thinking of how many time they went out and did she holds hand, did they went to bed.. Goshh!! all this question keep asking me….

• 56 Kev // Oct 4, 2009 at 12:41 AM

  Hey I’m really confused my GF of 3 months has another BF that I know about and she is having a sexual relationship with him but also cheating with other different guys at the same time but is honest about it with me. I’m really in love with her and she is too. She’s helped me through a lot and she starting to stop cheating with her friends as far as I know and she had this BF before I met her. What should I do??? I don’t think I can live
  without her.

• 57 Love Guru // Oct 5, 2009 at 4:36 PM

  Sounds like this so called “GF” of yours is young and wild and doesn’t want to be locked into any type of relationship right now. If you really think you love her and see what she is doing to other guys then you might want to take a closer look at the situation with yourself removed. I wouldn’t go calling her your girlfriend when she already has another boyfriend and is sleeping with other guys. This sounds like a recipe for disaster for all involved and be careful not to catch any diseases in the meantime.

• 58 In Love and confused // Oct 26, 2009 at 9:39 AM

  My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We are both deeply in love with one another. I went to the states just this past weekend, I was gone for two days! My friend was having a moving away party and I come back to hear that my boyfriend had sex with one of my good friends while he was really drunk. When I talked to him about it, he was actually crying he was upset cause he didn’t remember it happening and it hurt him to hurt me like this. I asked my friend if they used a condom and she said they didn’t, and she could possibly be pregnant. I’m a little worried. About a year and a half ago I was really high and I cheated on him, sadly, i gave guy a blow job but I never cheated on him with sexual intercourse. We’re kind of at an even boat here, we both did it and felt like crap and agreed its not something that we would ever want happening again. Should I break up with him or should we stay together and continue or relationship as good as it was? What if he made my friend pregnant without meaning to?

  -Confused

• 59 Lonely Girl // Nov 23, 2009 at 9:05 PM

  My boyfriend told me he was just going to spend the night hanging with the guys, having a couple drinks while playing video games, or watching a movie. They ended up going to the bars, and he ended up seeing a friend he’s kind of had a thing for, for a while. They ended up both getting completely and totally drunk, and ended up making out three different times. She has a boyfriend as well, so she ended up lying and telling him a different story than what my boyfriend told me. The only good I can see is that he told me the next time he saw me, which happened to be the next day. The problem is that I want to work things out with him and be in a relationship, but he’s not questioning everything. I’ve been told that time will help, if we just have a little space, because emotions are running high right now and confusing the both of us. I just don’t know what to do, because I want to be with him, but I don’t know if that’s the best thing to do.

• 60 Mike // Dec 22, 2009 at 10:51 AM

  Hey, I’m confused on what I should I do. My girlfriend cheated on me about 2 weeks ago from another guy but she said she was thinking about me as they were kissing.. about 2 days ago she broke up with her boyfriend and said she liked him but she loved me. She cheated on me once and from what I’ve heard she has cheated on all of her previous boyfriends too. She wants to get back together but I’m in a tough situation. I don’t know what to do. Can someone please get back to me on this.

• 61 Love Guru // Dec 22, 2009 at 2:06 PM

  Sounds like he is not ready to be in a steady relationship and wants to play the field. Age and maturity have a big play in this as men tend to mature at a slower rate then women. Video games, hanging out with the boys and bar hopping sounds like an early 20s mentality that hopefully he’ll be able to grow out of soon enough. If he is serious and committed to having a relationship with you then he’ll need to prove it by his actions. You hold the cards now so slow play your hand for the best results.

• 62 mi // Dec 22, 2009 at 2:12 PM

  I have a boyfriend who’s 24 yrs old but never acts like his age…. he’s fond of playing poker, basketball, computer games and the like….sometimes, I don’t feel that he loves me cuz he lied to me many times like when we have a date, he told me he’s out with his mom but I saw him just playing poker, then I was about to watch his game as an ever loyal GF but when I called him to know the exact place of the game, he said they change venue, but I saw him with his guy friend on the old venue he told me about… then the last one is I saw him online, then he told me he was chatting with his sister, when in fact I caught him chatting with other girls he just knew from a social space. Sometimes, I do feel that he loves me like when he introduced me to all his family members, he helped us last Typhoon Ondoy, and when he was intoxicated and almost died, he looked for me, and I think we really had a connection through these times. Every time we fight, he really never says he’s sorry, but instead we’ll just see each other one day (cuz we are neighbors) and act like as if nothing happened, or sometimes when we see each other online, he’ll buzz me and then we talk like friends again…. the last time he made me upset was when I caught him chatting with other girls, instead of saying he will not do it again, he said he’s just chatting and talking and he’s not courting anyone and don’t have a plan of meeting them… I’m really upset that I don’t talk to him anymore, but the worst is he will never initiate to talk to me either… and the last thing he said was, he felt devastated cuz the guys in the computer shop laughed at him when I caught him that time… but I never nagged or anything I just said, if u are really just friends with these girls, then why don’t you introduce me, but he never did…. What should I do? pls… I need help… thanks.

• 63 Love Guru // Dec 22, 2009 at 3:16 PM

  My suggestion to you here is to not initiate any conversation with him as he is expecting you to do so and your relationship with him from his perspective seems to be out of convenience. If he isn’t willing to accept fault in these matters then he continue down this path of behavior and you will continue to be hurt by it. I would let him know not in a nagging way that if he has any intentions of having a relationship with you that he needs to be honest and committed to you. It seems that his passion for playing poker is really important to him. You’ll need to accept that if you want to get serious with him as that looks to be a deal breaker for him.

• 64 mi // Dec 22, 2009 at 10:31 PM

  hi love guru…. i made a mistake and when i saw him online i said how are u… but he never reply…i know it’s a wrong move… he always has a way of making me feel guilty that i was the one who upset him…… and u know what, i saw his mom the other night and when i mentioned that i caught him cheating through chat with other girls, she only said, it’s just chat…… honestly speaking, i never nagged him that day, it just happen that the computer shop was too small for the guys to hear our conversation, and one commented that he was caught by a police… i guess that was the one made an impact to him and that probably he felt like he lost
  his manly ego…
  i don’t want us not to be talking until xmas but i guess he’s the one who doesn’t want to talk now…
  i want to tell him that the only thing i want is for me to be the only one…but i don’t know how to start… is it ok to tell him in email since he never reply to me… and sometimes, i just want to break it off, coz he’s making me upset…. and i am leaving next month to work abroad but we’re still gonna see each other coz he’s gonna be there also by march, but we’re not in the same company. i love him and i think we’re really cool together like i can tell him anything under the sun and he’s the same except those he knows that will make me upset…
  i think we can still work it out and we will be happy when we’re abroad coz he can’t do those kiddie stuff when he started to work and i feel that we’re gonna be much closer coz he can only rely to me as his companion….
  right now i always saw him online wid view his webcam , and for sure he’s flirting wid someone… when we we’re still ok, he has less time for chatting coz he visits me here at home and we watch dvd or play psp or even watching porn on the net……i’m afraid the more time we don’t talk, the more time he has to chat wid them and maybe to find someone he gets comfortable with….. i’ve always been ever supported to him that i helped him with his resume and finding a job while here, but he was never lucky to have one… i helped him wid his finances like when his motor cycle malfunctioned and when i send him to the hospital… his mom promised to pay me by new yr… i don’t know if he’s just using me bec im convenient to him and i forgive him even he’s not saying his sorry…. i think he get used to that… im really sad that we’re not gonna spend the xmas together coz im not gonna beg him to be ok…. i already made an effor of saying how are u but he never reply……
  i only have 2 weeks before i leave the country, and i guess we should be spending it to together, i don’t know what to do anymore…. it feels like im gonna lose him…. is it ok to great him merry xmas and give gift to his mom… and just be casual…… honestly speaking, if i read ur reply before i was online , i will never initiate any conversation, i know it made my situation worst…..
  i believe we should fight for love, and i know if i’ll just move on, but in our situation, we never had a really big fight, it’s just petty quarrel but it really affects me….. and every time i hear his motorcycle passing by i can’t help to look, but he never see me looking at him… i miss him so much….. do u have any good suggestion…. ill make sure ill check ur reply first before making any move…..i think he has this impression that whatever he do, ill keep coming back to him….. pls help me… thanks

• 65 Mike // Dec 26, 2009 at 9:51 PM

  I’m 16, and currently have a girlfriend. She had an emotional attachment to an ex, while we started to date. on the night of our first kiss, she went around to her ex’s place (she was living their at the time) and the ex was drunk. the ex was coming on to my girlfriend and she challenged him that she couldn’t be tempted by him to try and prove a point, but they ended up sleeping with each other. I know she likes me more, but they had had sex before but we hadn’t and didn’t expect sex from me.

  My girl lied to me and broke up with me on other terms (such as my studies which are important to me – exams were on-) but i eventually won her back. I learned 2 months in exactly what happened from the ex, who was drunk again. I also became good friends with him. My girl told me all the details today as I forced them out of her, but she didn’t want to tell me because she didn’t want us to break up. I know she genuinely actually loves me, and I really like her back.

  What should I do?? She’s my first real girlfriend and I want to run away from ever thinking of that night, as it is now ruined. She is currently not having a good time because i haven’t talked to her since she told me the truth and I didn’t say we were going to stay together. I could never forgive her but should I stay with her? I don’t feel the same way I do towards her before I know the details of her cheating. I thought they were both intoxicated or something. Help!

• 66 taye // Jan 14, 2010 at 7:03 PM

  Ive been with my boyfriend alittle over a year and my family loves him cause hes a nice guy. One day i found a number romantic text messages on his phone. i confronted him about it hes says its a mistake and wont happen again. yesterday i found that he and some girl possibly his ex where still leaving love messages to each other on facebook. I m really in love with this guy and i dont know should i talk it out and make it work or just leave the relationship.

• 67 Love Guru // Jan 15, 2010 at 11:55 AM

  You can give him one more chance. Let him know that you see leaving romantic text messages and love messages on facebook as a form of cheating and if he does it again then you are ready to walk. Be strong.

• 68 Tyler // Feb 21, 2010 at 2:37 PM

  Yesterday I just found out my girlfriend cheated on me again….this time alot worse than last time…The first time she cheated was in december and it was a couple make out sesh’s with a guy named Cord…i was like wow…so i broke up with her…later on cord broke up with her and she came back to me..we made out and stuff. Then she said she had to pick one of us on new years…she picked cord and then they did some stuff…but not sex. Later that night i went to her house and she kissed me a couple times…then cord and her broke up. We had sex and then got back together the next day…there was a day towards the end of janurary though where her and cord went to go see a movie and im like wtf? she said tyler just trust me and i was like ok…now that was the re-cap…ok so things were going pretty good in our relationship and i be-friended cord and his friends…so i was chillin with his friend john one day and he tells me did u hear what ur girl and cord did at the movies that one day? I was like no? what? he said she blowed cord and made out…im like wtf ur lieing and he said ask her…i did and she said yes…she said she was regretful and dont know what came over…i was like wow…i cant believe you…you have broken my heart all these times and u expect me to not break up with u…she said ur my one true love and i said i dont know if i can believe that anymore…i dont know what to do…should i break up with her or stay with her? im really confused because i dont know what i did wrong…ive put so much thought into it but i dont know what to do…i need help…i need an answer…if someone could reply back to this that would be great! thank you :]

• 69 Love Guru // Feb 21, 2010 at 2:53 PM

  Tyler, I don’t think you did anything wrong expect to continue to get back in a relationship with this person. As they say there are a lot of fish in the sea. You would be better off spending more time with school work (if your in school) or more time at work (if you work) and not worry about a realtionship. Keep your head up and love will find you.

• 70 D~z1l // Feb 21, 2010 at 5:28 PM

  well basicly i had dis girlfriend ive been goin out with for 3 years and like 4 months nd i found out recently that she cheated on me multiple times after she movedd and stoped going to the same school as me she slept with 1 of my friends last year and she slept with some dude when she 1st moved and she went out with multiple people and lied to me about parties etz. but heres the catch i did basiclly everything she did but not every thing and when i ask her why she said becuse of who i use to be and how i was wiyh other girls she dosent kno that ive cheated on her because ive been the best bf in her discription to her and the best lover so i tried to work it out and talk to her but deep down i dnt think shes telling the whole truth nd she is currently pregnant and claims its by me and she lives with me and every day its like hell but we both love each other and dont want to leave what should i do?

• 71 Love Guru // Feb 22, 2010 at 11:43 AM

  D~z1l, honesty is the best policy. Been truthful with each other and to yourselves – are you both ready to settle down and commit to each other? This needs to be discussed and brought to the forefront of your relationship.

• 72 dan // Feb 23, 2010 at 5:58 PM

  Hi! i have this kind of problem… i and my husband is living together as a couple for more than 8 years.But those years, we always had fight and hurting each others feelings. We always fight about his text mate i figure it out that he always keep on touch with his women in a very caring and romantic way which he never do that to me.And two years ago i found out that he had a sex on text with her friend.I believe he had an intimate relationship with this girl and not just in cellphones. And until now i still recall all those betrayal he did to me. Even i would say that i forgive and forget about it but still always coming back. I’ll will be having a peace of mine if he will tell me the truth and always be honest to me. Please help me… i don’t know what to do.

• 73 dan // Feb 24, 2010 at 8:10 AM

  this is a very heplful website…

• 74 Love Guru // Feb 24, 2010 at 11:46 AM

  dan, why don’t you start text flirting with him? See if you can resesitate your relationship by being ‘the other woman’. Some men like the fantasy.

• 75 Adam // Mar 1, 2010 at 3:48 AM

  So my girlfriend cheated on me about two months ago. She lied about it until now and she did it again with another guy that was my friend and after all that I still love her but now just too she slept with some one else what do I do?

• 76 Love Guru // Mar 2, 2010 at 11:09 AM

  Yo Adam. You just need to walk away from her. This is bad news for you man. She is showing signs of serial cheating and obviously has some issues with being faithful. Especially if she has done this with one of your friends. Not cool.

• 77 Isabel // Mar 3, 2010 at 6:27 PM

  I have a boyfriend and he just cheated on me on may way to mexico.and iam very hurt rright now i dont know what to do he deserves to sufer too.and what is wrost that iam deep in him:(

• 78 Love Guru // Mar 4, 2010 at 11:37 AM

  Isabel, time to concentrate on yourself and dedicate your time to education and hobbies. Love will find you.

• 79 Lauren // Mar 5, 2010 at 11:15 AM

  Ok, so I’m engaged we have been together for 8 months he was in the army b4 we met and got out he came down to New Orleans for vacation where I’m from he’s from Texas and when we met we got each others number and then he kept asking me out and I kept saying no because the distance and he picked up his life and moved here to be with me so everything was great I ended up falling in love with him he said he knew I was the one for him ever since we met so now we both decided that it was best for him to join the Navy because he couldn’t keep a job, and then he asked me to marry him and I said “Yes”. Before he left i was going through his email and this girl and him were emailing each other and he said “I Love You Baby” to her and I lost it and he said someone hacked his email but now he’s doing his training for the Navy and I’m scared he’s cheating on me he left everything at home, his truck, clothes, our dog. I have everything that he owns except a suitcase with some clothes. I talked to that girl and she said they met on a online dating site and they never met but he emails her. I told her to leave him alone but what do I do?? Do I leave him or talk to him when he gets home in 35 days???

• 80 Love Guru // Mar 5, 2010 at 12:15 PM

  Lauren – tough one here. A lot of how you handle this is dependent on what type of person you are. If you are able to fully forgive him for stupidity in what I call “e-Cheating” on a dating site then you might be able to work through this with him. If you keep on thinking that he is cheating on you every time he is away then it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy and the anger that you will have towards him will usually trigger him to do those type of actions. You need to build your relationship on trust. He needs to be able to trust that you won’t be digging through his personal items as well. To be honest with you if you check most of the top dating sites online you will see that there are tons of married people trolling the sites both male and female.

  One thing you need to get cleared right away is to be firm but not crazy that you don’t appreciate him both lying to you and engaging into an online relationship with some person that he doesn’t even know. See what his reaction is to this conversation and then make your decision on whether you want to then forgive him and move forward or break the engagement. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

• 81 Brooke // Mar 6, 2010 at 10:10 AM

  ok my big sister kim shes 30 has this boyfriend and they have been dating for 1 year and she just got an e-mail saying that your boyfriend is cheating on you and i have none this for a long time sorry but i cant tell you who this is………… shes been crying for 5 hours stright help help plz plz………….:(

• 82 Love Guru // Mar 6, 2010 at 11:39 AM

  Brooke, your sister has to find out who wrote the email. It might be a person trying to ruin your sister’s boyfriend’s life. Try and do some fact checking before going overboard.

• 83 Ben // Mar 16, 2010 at 3:47 AM

  My girlfriend and i had been together for 8 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago but we still keep seeing each other. anyway i slept my ex gf from 4 yrs ago after a drunken night of stupidity 3 wks before i broke up with my gf then last week i found out my gf slept with her ex 1 wk before we ended it. i confronted her about it and she told me she was drunk and he was persistant and that she hated what she did then i come clean and told her about me. Anyway i thought that was it.. we would no longer have contact with each other then later that night she rang me and asked if i wanted to hangout i said yes which lead to me spending the night and sleeping with her. now im confused as we both still love each other but have lost the trust for each other. where do i go from here??

• 84 Love Guru // Mar 16, 2010 at 11:36 AM

  Ben, looks like both of you weren’t really ready to commit and still might not be. You two should sit down and have a serious conversation about your relationship and the direction you want it to go in. If you truly want an exclusive relationship with her than let her know this and that there will be no sleeping with other people – even if you drank a bit to much.

• 85 Nick // Apr 6, 2010 at 6:17 PM

  Hey everyone i had found out about a week ago my girlfreidn had kissed another dude be hind my back. But i really like her for who she is. A song to represent what i am thinknig is sliverstein- smile in youre sleep. look it up and you will get alot more of what is happening. I dont know what to do next i dont want to dump her but i jsut dont know if she will do it again to me or not i know its a risky move to take and i dont want to go throguh the pain all over again. We still havent settled much and i dont know what to say to her… Can some one pelase e mail me with some awsners i have had really weird emo thoughts lateley so please e mail me back. at nickpwnin@yahoo.com

• 86 Love Guru // Apr 7, 2010 at 11:32 AM

  nick, let her know that you don’t appreciate her kissing someone else and let her know that it hurt a lot. This will help her understand your feelings towards her and should put both of you back on the same path.

• 87 lori // May 10, 2010 at 7:16 PM

  hey i’m 36 and i went to my so called bf house and was cleaning and found a condom, but i confonted him bout it and he first denied it been there but when he got home and seen it i asked him again and he said its bullshit that it was old condom but it makes me think when i’m not with him is he cheating .i don’t know whether to believe him or not so tell me what would you do bout it . it make me cry and be upset all day it made my stomach hurt help me please!!!

• 88 Love Guru // May 11, 2010 at 11:29 AM

  lori, that’s a tough one but as most people say – go with your gut feeling. I would be very alert to changes in his attitude and mannerisms towards you. If he becomes very short and defensive with these questions you ask him then you might want to spend more time taking care of yourself.

• 89 emma // May 16, 2010 at 10:55 AM

  my boyfriend is 16 and he cheated on me with a 22 year old i really really love him and i dont know what to do please help me !

• 90 Love Guru // May 17, 2010 at 11:25 AM

  You are still very young and have a lot of life to live. I would concentrate on my school work and let love come to me instead of chasing it. You will find someone who shares your views about commitment.

• 91 Perplexed // May 19, 2010 at 8:51 PM

  I have been with my girlfriend for a bit over a year now and am living with her. I have recently found out that she slept with someone else, and was interested in, after we had started sleeping with each other but before we ‘made it official’. When asked if she had slept with anyone after we had met she said no. We seem happy now and I am sure as i can be that she hasnt cheated on me since we have been a couple. I am not sure if I should worry about it at all, just thought i could get a second opinion. My main concern is that she seemed more intrested in persueing a relationship with the other guy than me. Am i just being jelous when i shoudnt be?

• 92 Love Guru // Jun 15, 2010 at 11:22 AM

  Since she slept with someone else before you guys made it ‘official’ then I wouldn’t worry about it. As long as your relationship now, being ‘official’, is solid and both of you are happy together than I would put the past in the past. Plus, always remember who she chose in the end – you – and not the other guy.

• 93 Fernando // Aug 1, 2010 at 2:44 AM

  My girlfriend cheated on me. She says it was an accident and a stupid thing that should have never happen. she is my whole world and i broke down when she told me. Something like this hurts and will hurt for a long time. I really took a second and remembered all of the good times we have had and i know a lifetime of that could easily make up for what she did. i love her to death i just need help dealing with the fact. I am just in a whirl of emotion but i know leaving her would be a mistake.

• 94 Love Guru // Aug 20, 2010 at 12:52 PM

  Frenando, Love is a two way street. It is real hard to earn that trust back and it takes a long time. If you want to giver her a second chance, try not to be overbearing, but let her know that she will need to ‘earn’ your trust back. Hopefully everything works out.

• 95 Love Guru // Aug 20, 2010 at 12:55 PM

  confuse, you might want to step back and take some time off from this relationship. It looks like, from what you wrote, that she has been misleading you about her SMS and calling this other person. It would be good for you to focus on something else besides her and if she realy wants you she will come back.

• 96 Love Guru // Aug 20, 2010 at 12:57 PM

  Larry, wow with friends like that who needs enemies. This economy has a lot of people out of work and that shouldn’t be a reason for someone to cheat. If you want her back and she is willing then you should take it slow. Don’t let her jump right back in because she may feel that she could cheat again with no repercussions. Take it slow and make her earn your trust again.

• 97 Love Guru // Aug 20, 2010 at 1:01 PM

  rami, it looks like she made the decision for you – she moved on. You should do the same – move on and start concentrating on other aspects of your life. Having a significant other is only a small part of your life and you need to start exploring the other parts of your life that need more attention. The important thing is to not mope around and look depressed when you are around others. If you have an upbeat aura to you then other people will see that and want to be around you.

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