Comments on: What Do You Do if Your Lover Cheats on You http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you Providing online dating service reviews, dating advice and tips for singles looking for love, dates and romance online. Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:15:31 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1526 Love Guru Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:15:31 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1526 Lauren - tough one here. A lot of how you handle this is dependent on what type of person you are. If you are able to fully forgive him for stupidity in what I call "e-Cheating" on a dating site then you might be able to work through this with him. If you keep on thinking that he is cheating on you every time he is away then it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy and the anger that you will have towards him will usually trigger him to do those type of actions. You need to build your relationship on trust. He needs to be able to trust that you won't be digging through his personal items as well. To be honest with you if you check most of the top dating sites online you will see that there are tons of married people trolling the sites both male and female. One thing you need to get cleared right away is to be firm but not crazy that you don't appreciate him both lying to you and engaging into an online relationship with some person that he doesn't even know. See what his reaction is to this conversation and then make your decision on whether you want to then forgive him and move forward or break the engagement. Good luck. Let us know how it goes. Lauren – tough one here. A lot of how you handle this is dependent on what type of person you are. If you are able to fully forgive him for stupidity in what I call “e-Cheating” on a dating site then you might be able to work through this with him. If you keep on thinking that he is cheating on you every time he is away then it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy and the anger that you will have towards him will usually trigger him to do those type of actions. You need to build your relationship on trust. He needs to be able to trust that you won’t be digging through his personal items as well. To be honest with you if you check most of the top dating sites online you will see that there are tons of married people trolling the sites both male and female.

One thing you need to get cleared right away is to be firm but not crazy that you don’t appreciate him both lying to you and engaging into an online relationship with some person that he doesn’t even know. See what his reaction is to this conversation and then make your decision on whether you want to then forgive him and move forward or break the engagement. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

]]> By: Lauren http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1516 Lauren Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:15:20 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1516 Ok, so I'm engaged we have been together for 8 months he was in the army b4 we met and got out he came down to New Orleans for vacation where I'm from he's from Texas and when we met we got each others number and then he kept asking me out and I kept saying no because the distance and he picked up his life and moved here to be with me so everything was great I ended up falling in love with him he said he knew I was the one for him ever since we met so now we both decided that it was best for him to join the Navy because he couldn't keep a job, and then he asked me to marry him and I said "Yes". Before he left i was going through his email and this girl and him were emailing each other and he said "I Love You Baby" to her and I lost it and he said someone hacked his email but now he's doing his training for the Navy and I'm scared he's cheating on me he left everything at home, his truck, clothes, our dog. I have everything that he owns except a suitcase with some clothes. I talked to that girl and she said they met on a online dating site and they never met but he emails her. I told her to leave him alone but what do I do?? Do I leave him or talk to him when he gets home in 35 days??? Ok, so I’m engaged we have been together for 8 months he was in the army b4 we met and got out he came down to New Orleans for vacation where I’m from he’s from Texas and when we met we got each others number and then he kept asking me out and I kept saying no because the distance and he picked up his life and moved here to be with me so everything was great I ended up falling in love with him he said he knew I was the one for him ever since we met so now we both decided that it was best for him to join the Navy because he couldn’t keep a job, and then he asked me to marry him and I said “Yes”. Before he left i was going through his email and this girl and him were emailing each other and he said “I Love You Baby” to her and I lost it and he said someone hacked his email but now he’s doing his training for the Navy and I’m scared he’s cheating on me he left everything at home, his truck, clothes, our dog. I have everything that he owns except a suitcase with some clothes. I talked to that girl and she said they met on a online dating site and they never met but he emails her. I told her to leave him alone but what do I do?? Do I leave him or talk to him when he gets home in 35 days???

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1525 Love Guru Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:09:45 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1525 Yo Adam. You just need to walk away from her. This is bad news for you man. She is showing signs of serial cheating and obviously has some issues with being faithful. Especially if she has done this with one of your friends. Not cool. Yo Adam. You just need to walk away from her. This is bad news for you man. She is showing signs of serial cheating and obviously has some issues with being faithful. Especially if she has done this with one of your friends. Not cool.

]]> By: Adam http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1519 Adam Mon, 01 Mar 2010 10:48:05 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1519 So my girlfriend cheated on me about two months ago. She lied about it until now and she did it again with another guy that was my friend and after all that I still love her but now just too she slept with some one else what do I do? So my girlfriend cheated on me about two months ago. She lied about it until now and she did it again with another guy that was my friend and after all that I still love her but now just too she slept with some one else what do I do?

]]> By: dan http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1515 dan Wed, 24 Feb 2010 15:10:46 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1515 this is a very heplful website... this is a very heplful website…

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1457 Love Guru Tue, 22 Dec 2009 22:16:38 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1457 My suggestion to you here is to not initiate any conversation with him as he is expecting you to do so and your relationship with him from his perspective seems to be out of convenience. If he isn't willing to accept fault in these matters then he continue down this path of behavior and you will continue to be hurt by it. I would let him know not in a nagging way that if he has any intentions of having a relationship with you that he needs to be honest and committed to you. It seems that his passion for playing poker is really important to him. You'll need to accept that if you want to get serious with him as that looks to be a deal breaker for him. My suggestion to you here is to not initiate any conversation with him as he is expecting you to do so and your relationship with him from his perspective seems to be out of convenience. If he isn’t willing to accept fault in these matters then he continue down this path of behavior and you will continue to be hurt by it. I would let him know not in a nagging way that if he has any intentions of having a relationship with you that he needs to be honest and committed to you. It seems that his passion for playing poker is really important to him. You’ll need to accept that if you want to get serious with him as that looks to be a deal breaker for him.

]]> By: mi http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1455 mi Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:12:00 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1455 I have a boyfriend who's 24 yrs old but never acts like his age.... he's fond of playing poker, basketball, computer games and the like....sometimes, I don't feel that he loves me cuz he lied to me many times like when we have a date, he told me he's out with his mom but I saw him just playing poker, then I was about to watch his game as an ever loyal GF but when I called him to know the exact place of the game, he said they change venue, but I saw him with his guy friend on the old venue he told me about... then the last one is I saw him online, then he told me he was chatting with his sister, when in fact I caught him chatting with other girls he just knew from a social space. Sometimes, I do feel that he loves me like when he introduced me to all his family members, he helped us last Typhoon Ondoy, and when he was intoxicated and almost died, he looked for me, and I think we really had a connection through these times. Every time we fight, he really never says he's sorry, but instead we'll just see each other one day (cuz we are neighbors) and act like as if nothing happened, or sometimes when we see each other online, he'll buzz me and then we talk like friends again.... the last time he made me upset was when I caught him chatting with other girls, instead of saying he will not do it again, he said he's just chatting and talking and he's not courting anyone and don't have a plan of meeting them... I'm really upset that I don't talk to him anymore, but the worst is he will never initiate to talk to me either... and the last thing he said was, he felt devastated cuz the guys in the computer shop laughed at him when I caught him that time... but I never nagged or anything I just said, if u are really just friends with these girls, then why don't you introduce me, but he never did.... What should I do? pls... I need help... thanks. I have a boyfriend who’s 24 yrs old but never acts like his age…. he’s fond of playing poker, basketball, computer games and the like….sometimes, I don’t feel that he loves me cuz he lied to me many times like when we have a date, he told me he’s out with his mom but I saw him just playing poker, then I was about to watch his game as an ever loyal GF but when I called him to know the exact place of the game, he said they change venue, but I saw him with his guy friend on the old venue he told me about… then the last one is I saw him online, then he told me he was chatting with his sister, when in fact I caught him chatting with other girls he just knew from a social space. Sometimes, I do feel that he loves me like when he introduced me to all his family members, he helped us last Typhoon Ondoy, and when he was intoxicated and almost died, he looked for me, and I think we really had a connection through these times. Every time we fight, he really never says he’s sorry, but instead we’ll just see each other one day (cuz we are neighbors) and act like as if nothing happened, or sometimes when we see each other online, he’ll buzz me and then we talk like friends again…. the last time he made me upset was when I caught him chatting with other girls, instead of saying he will not do it again, he said he’s just chatting and talking and he’s not courting anyone and don’t have a plan of meeting them… I’m really upset that I don’t talk to him anymore, but the worst is he will never initiate to talk to me either… and the last thing he said was, he felt devastated cuz the guys in the computer shop laughed at him when I caught him that time… but I never nagged or anything I just said, if u are really just friends with these girls, then why don’t you introduce me, but he never did…. What should I do? pls… I need help… thanks.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1456 Love Guru Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:06:32 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1456 Sounds like he is not ready to be in a steady relationship and wants to play the field. Age and maturity have a big play in this as men tend to mature at a slower rate then women. Video games, hanging out with the boys and bar hopping sounds like an early 20s mentality that hopefully he'll be able to grow out of soon enough. If he is serious and committed to having a relationship with you then he'll need to prove it by his actions. You hold the cards now so slow play your hand for the best results. Sounds like he is not ready to be in a steady relationship and wants to play the field. Age and maturity have a big play in this as men tend to mature at a slower rate then women. Video games, hanging out with the boys and bar hopping sounds like an early 20s mentality that hopefully he’ll be able to grow out of soon enough. If he is serious and committed to having a relationship with you then he’ll need to prove it by his actions. You hold the cards now so slow play your hand for the best results.

]]> By: Lonely Girl http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1416 Lonely Girl Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:05:19 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1416 My boyfriend told me he was just going to spend the night hanging with the guys, having a couple drinks while playing video games, or watching a movie. They ended up going to the bars, and he ended up seeing a friend he's kind of had a thing for, for a while. They ended up both getting completely and totally drunk, and ended up making out three different times. She has a boyfriend as well, so she ended up lying and telling him a different story than what my boyfriend told me. The only good I can see is that he told me the next time he saw me, which happened to be the next day. The problem is that I want to work things out with him and be in a relationship, but he's not questioning everything. I've been told that time will help, if we just have a little space, because emotions are running high right now and confusing the both of us. I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him, but I don't know if that's the best thing to do. My boyfriend told me he was just going to spend the night hanging with the guys, having a couple drinks while playing video games, or watching a movie. They ended up going to the bars, and he ended up seeing a friend he’s kind of had a thing for, for a while. They ended up both getting completely and totally drunk, and ended up making out three different times. She has a boyfriend as well, so she ended up lying and telling him a different story than what my boyfriend told me. The only good I can see is that he told me the next time he saw me, which happened to be the next day. The problem is that I want to work things out with him and be in a relationship, but he’s not questioning everything. I’ve been told that time will help, if we just have a little space, because emotions are running high right now and confusing the both of us. I just don’t know what to do, because I want to be with him, but I don’t know if that’s the best thing to do.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1368 Love Guru Mon, 05 Oct 2009 23:36:52 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1368 Sounds like this so called "GF" of yours is young and wild and doesn't want to be locked into any type of relationship right now. If you really think you love her and see what she is doing to other guys then you might want to take a closer look at the situation with yourself removed. I wouldn't go calling her your girlfriend when she already has another boyfriend and is sleeping with other guys. This sounds like a recipe for disaster for all involved and be careful not to catch any diseases in the meantime. Sounds like this so called “GF” of yours is young and wild and doesn’t want to be locked into any type of relationship right now. If you really think you love her and see what she is doing to other guys then you might want to take a closer look at the situation with yourself removed. I wouldn’t go calling her your girlfriend when she already has another boyfriend and is sleeping with other guys. This sounds like a recipe for disaster for all involved and be careful not to catch any diseases in the meantime.

]]> By: Kev http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-2#comment-1367 Kev Sun, 04 Oct 2009 07:41:40 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1367 Hey I'm really confused my GF of 3 months has another BF that I know about and she is having a sexual relationship with him but also cheating with other different guys at the same time but is honest about it with me. I'm really in love with her and she is too. She's helped me through a lot and she starting to stop cheating with her friends as far as I know and she had this BF before I met her. What should I do??? I don't think I can live without her. Hey I’m really confused my GF of 3 months has another BF that I know about and she is having a sexual relationship with him but also cheating with other different guys at the same time but is honest about it with me. I’m really in love with her and she is too. She’s helped me through a lot and she starting to stop cheating with her friends as far as I know and she had this BF before I met her. What should I do??? I don’t think I can live
without her.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1294 Love Guru Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:45:21 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1294 Waterflows - Sounds like you might want to just let her go. You can still have feelings for her but if she can't stand to be alone and you guys are in a long distance relationship then it'll keep happening. You don't want to have her come back if she is away for school. There might be a time later in life where things might work out for you guys better. Keep the friendship if you value it and don't be a nut case that she cheated as it is a pretty common thing with long distance relationships. Be happy that she actually told you and that you didn't hear about it 2nd hand. Waterflows – Sounds like you might want to just let her go. You can still have feelings for her but if she can’t stand to be alone and you guys are in a long distance relationship then it’ll keep happening. You don’t want to have her come back if she is away for school. There might be a time later in life where things might work out for you guys better. Keep the friendship if you value it and don’t be a nut case that she cheated as it is a pretty common thing with long distance relationships. Be happy that she actually told you and that you didn’t hear about it 2nd hand.

]]> By: Waterflows http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1293 Waterflows Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:37:35 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1293 Hi..My GF of 4 years just informed me that she cheated a week and a half ago. She could look me in the eyes. She is very emotional so she was crying a lot. We have been trying to do this long distance relationship but she just spoiled it. She said she was feeling lonely and needed somebody. She is a great person if you meet her. She has to start school by September in another city and she's telling me that she wants to come back and that she can't do this thing. I hate the feeling of betrayal but I really do care about her. The worst thing is that I bought her a ring recently which she knows about and she still cheated. I was trying my best to keep the interest high. I was supposed to go see her beginning of August but I didn't make it which made her mum hate me. I know I have a lot ahead of me. Should I go ahead and forgive her and make her come back or let her go. Should I cut her out? Should I test it out for the second time? She even said the condom broke. Hi..My GF of 4 years just informed me that she cheated a week and a half ago. She could look me in the eyes. She is very emotional so she was crying a lot. We have been trying to do this long distance relationship but she just spoiled it. She said she was feeling lonely and needed somebody. She is a great person if you meet her. She has to start school by September in another city and she’s telling me that she wants to come back and that she can’t do this thing. I hate the feeling of betrayal but I really do care about her. The worst thing is that I bought her a ring recently which she knows about and she still cheated. I was trying my best to keep the interest high. I was supposed to go see her beginning of August but I didn’t make it which made her mum hate me. I know I have a lot ahead of me. Should I go ahead and forgive her and make her come back or let her go. Should I cut her out? Should I test it out for the second time? She even said the condom broke.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1271 Love Guru Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:43:07 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1271 This sounds like a pretty common incident where people that are feeling neglected in a relationship will sometime confide in co-workers about their problems and a lot of times they have their own hidden agendas. I would tell her that if she has any issues with you to talk directly to you about it and if she needs to take a break to think about things then to do that instead of cheating and breaking your trust. This sounds like a pretty common incident where people that are feeling neglected in a relationship will sometime confide in co-workers about their problems and a lot of times they have their own hidden agendas. I would tell her that if she has any issues with you to talk directly to you about it and if she needs to take a break to think about things then to do that instead of cheating and breaking your trust.

]]> By: rad_shifter@yahoo.com http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1249 rad_shifter@yahoo.com Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:36:17 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1249 My GF admits cheating on me I forgive her but she still blames me for what she did because I did not pay enough attention to her and that @$$hole which is her co-worker takes advantage of our misunderstanding and she also admits that she kissed the guy and regrets doing that. WTF should i do? My GF admits cheating on me I forgive her but she still blames me for what she did because I did not pay enough attention to her and that @$$hole which is her co-worker takes advantage of our misunderstanding and she also admits that she kissed the guy and regrets doing that. WTF should i do?

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1270 Love Guru Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:35:09 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1270 Sounds like you guys are in a pretty casual relationship and not "deeply in love" each other. People that are deeply in love don't act that way and she might need to just grow up a little bit more and if you are fine with waiting around for it to possibly happen and don't mind the mental anguish then go right ahead but my advice to you is to keep it casual with her until she is ready to commit to your relationship fully. Sounds like you guys are in a pretty casual relationship and not “deeply in love” each other. People that are deeply in love don’t act that way and she might need to just grow up a little bit more and if you are fine with waiting around for it to possibly happen and don’t mind the mental anguish then go right ahead but my advice to you is to keep it casual with her until she is ready to commit to your relationship fully.

]]> By: Izzy http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1223 Izzy Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:57:56 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1223 My girlfriend cheated on me three times, once in London because she felt lonely, another time with her friend who she never wanted to get physical with, and lastly with one of my friends, and they made out in his car. There was nothing more than making out and she tells me that she gets caught up in the moment and can't help herself, but once she's in the middle of it she realizes she's making a big mistake, and she told me about all three of them when they happened, I'm deeply in love with her, and she is deeply in love with me, we started to fool around but I couldn't help think that that guy probably did this exact thing to her. What am I supposed to do now? My girlfriend cheated on me three times, once in London because she felt lonely, another time with her friend who she never wanted to get physical with, and lastly with one of my friends, and they made out in his car. There was nothing more than making out and she tells me that she gets caught up in the moment and can’t help herself, but once she’s in the middle of it she realizes she’s making a big mistake, and she told me about all three of them when they happened, I’m deeply in love with her, and she is deeply in love with me, we started to fool around but I couldn’t help think that that guy probably did this exact thing to her. What am I supposed to do now?

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1219 Love Guru Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:59:38 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1219 That makes it more complex for sure. You don't want to shut him out totally. You just need a little time to work this out in your head and set your emotions aside. You can still love someone but don't have to be with them. You need to think about what is going to be best for you and your baby. Give him a little time to think about the mess he just created and be adult about your actions on how you are handling this situation. That makes it more complex for sure. You don’t want to shut him out totally. You just need a little time to work this out in your head and set your emotions aside. You can still love someone but don’t have to be with them. You need to think about what is going to be best for you and your baby. Give him a little time to think about the mess he just created and be adult about your actions on how you are handling this situation.

]]> By: chunky monkey http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1218 chunky monkey Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:50:44 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1218 And I'm pregnant. Should I still talk to him after I leave just cuz of the baby? Or do I just shut him out? I really love him and I'm scared if I don't stop talking to him I'm just going to be continuously hurt. And I’m pregnant. Should I still talk to him after I leave just cuz of the baby? Or do I just shut him out? I really love him and I’m scared if I don’t stop talking to him I’m just going to be continuously hurt.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1216 Love Guru Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:34:56 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1216 First of all do not feel like you are at fault at all in this mess. How can he say it is not his fault that he pulled out his penis and had unprotected sex with another girl and got her pregnant. Sounds like he has developed a track record of this type of behavior. The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself and break up with this guy immediately before you send the wrong message to him that it is okay to be doing this to women. Do not text or call him no matter how sad you might be feeling. Let him call you and you can decide whether you want to talk to him and work things out. If you call him then you are just putting yourself more out there for more relationship abuse. First of all do not feel like you are at fault at all in this mess. How can he say it is not his fault that he pulled out his penis and had unprotected sex with another girl and got her pregnant. Sounds like he has developed a track record of this type of behavior. The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself and break up with this guy immediately before you send the wrong message to him that it is okay to be doing this to women. Do not text or call him no matter how sad you might be feeling. Let him call you and you can decide whether you want to talk to him and work things out. If you call him then you are just putting yourself more out there for more relationship abuse.

]]> By: chunky monkey http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1215 chunky monkey Wed, 01 Jul 2009 20:23:21 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1215 I got an email from a girl I've only met once. She told me to call her so I did. She told me that my bf of almost a year cheated on me while I was out of town with one of my best friends and that she went to the doctor this morning to get an abortion. She was pregnant with twins. 6 weeks. So I told my bf I know and he told me it wasn't his fault and that he loves me more than anything else. I'm so hurt that he didn't tell me 'cuz i had to hear it from someone I hardly know and I don't know what I want to do. He has texted his ex and told her how he misses her and how he wishes he could help her with her sexual needs and he sent pics of "himself" if you get my meaning to someone he doesn't even know that he met on the internet. Now this. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I feel like I'm not worth anything at all and that other women are so much better than me. What do I do? I love him so much but I feel like he doesn't love me or want me around. If he did he wouldn't be hurting me like this. What do I do? I got an email from a girl I’ve only met once. She told me to call her so I did. She told me that my bf of almost a year cheated on me while I was out of town with one of my best friends and that she went to the doctor this morning to get an abortion. She was pregnant with twins. 6 weeks. So I told my bf I know and he told me it wasn’t his fault and that he loves me more than anything else. I’m so hurt that he didn’t tell me ‘cuz i had to hear it from someone I hardly know and I don’t know what I want to do. He has texted his ex and told her how he misses her and how he wishes he could help her with her sexual needs and he sent pics of “himself” if you get my meaning to someone he doesn’t even know that he met on the internet. Now this. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I feel like I’m not worth anything at all and that other women are so much better than me. What do I do? I love him so much but I feel like he doesn’t love me or want me around. If he did he wouldn’t be hurting me like this. What do I do?

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1210 Love Guru Mon, 29 Jun 2009 16:14:48 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1210 You don't have to tell him that you found his password but tell him that you are uncomfortable with him seeing or talking to his ex. The biggest issue here is his need for intimacy because your relationship is long distance. I am sure that if you were closer to him and top of mind that the situation would be different. I wouldn't suggest emailing her even though the impulse to do so is so strong. She'll then use this against you. Guys will in most cases fall for the friends with benefits thing every time because it is low hanging fruit and doesn't take much maintenance that real relationships do. You don’t have to tell him that you found his password but tell him that you are uncomfortable with him seeing or talking to his ex. The biggest issue here is his need for intimacy because your relationship is long distance. I am sure that if you were closer to him and top of mind that the situation would be different. I wouldn’t suggest emailing her even though the impulse to do so is so strong. She’ll then use this against you. Guys will in most cases fall for the friends with benefits thing every time because it is low hanging fruit and doesn’t take much maintenance that real relationships do.

]]> By: Claire http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1209 Claire Mon, 29 Jun 2009 13:44:43 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1209 I am in a long distance relationship with a wonderful caring guy, accidentally I found out his e-mail password and seen an e-mail from his ex that he is still friends with. From this I have now checked regularly as she is trying to get back with him and they have a friends with benefit thing going on. He always avoids the truth were she is concerned and I have voiced my concerns over their relationship and he said he would cut down on seeing her if it helped. Unfortunately I know that he is planning on hiking with her at the weekend. What should I do, he tells me I am everything to him and he loves me and we have started planning a future together. Should I e-mail her and tell her that she should move on, she had her chance with him? She relies on him far too much as far as I am concerned. I am drained from it all and of course cannot tell him that I know his password (I know this is an unforgivable thing to do). I love him so much and I am planning on moving to be with him. Please help, I've lost loads of weight over this. I am in a long distance relationship with a wonderful caring guy, accidentally I found out his e-mail password and seen an e-mail from his ex that he is still friends with. From this I have now checked regularly as she is trying to get back with him and they have a friends with benefit thing going on. He always avoids the truth were she is concerned and I have voiced my concerns over their relationship and he said he would cut down on seeing her if it helped. Unfortunately I know that he is planning on hiking with her at the weekend. What should I do, he tells me I am everything to him and he loves me and we have started planning a future together. Should I e-mail her and tell her that she should move on, she had her chance with him? She relies on him far too much as far as I am concerned. I am drained from it all and of course cannot tell him that I know his password (I know this is an unforgivable thing to do). I love him so much and I am planning on moving to be with him. Please help, I’ve lost loads of weight over this.

]]> By: sotiredofthis http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1198 sotiredofthis Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:19:16 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1198 My boyfriend is a sneaky person......he lies all the time. About 90% of the stuff that come out of his mouth is a lie. He has cheated with a number of women but lately he is chatting with women online on dating sites and txting them on his phone. I don't know if he is having sex with these women or just talking dirty to them. I don't know if he's even met these women or not. He tells them on the phone that when he gets his car fixed he'll come see them. They txt all during the morning, "Hey boo...I miss you boo" and he'll txt back the same. I don't understand why he's doing this. Everyday he looks me in the face and says "He loves me, I'm the only one for him, I'm his wife" but when I leave or am out of his sight he's doing this. My boyfriend is a sneaky person……he lies all the time. About 90% of the stuff that come out of his mouth is a lie. He has cheated with a number of women but lately he is chatting with women online on dating sites and txting them on his phone. I don’t know if he is having sex with these women or just talking dirty to them. I don’t know if he’s even met these women or not. He tells them on the phone that when he gets his car fixed he’ll come see them. They txt all during the morning, “Hey boo…I miss you boo” and he’ll txt back the same. I don’t understand why he’s doing this. Everyday he looks me in the face and says “He loves me, I’m the only one for him, I’m his wife” but when I leave or am out of his sight he’s doing this.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1189 Love Guru Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:09:38 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1189 Lara - You should have a very serious conversation to understand why he cheated on you so you can make a determination on whether you think it will happen again and if that is the case then you might want to end the relationship for a little while to teach him a lesson. Tell him to put himself in your seat and see how he would feel it you do that to him. Lara – You should have a very serious conversation to understand why he cheated on you so you can make a determination on whether you think it will happen again and if that is the case then you might want to end the relationship for a little while to teach him a lesson. Tell him to put himself in your seat and see how he would feel it you do that to him.

]]> By: Lara http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1183 Lara Mon, 08 Jun 2009 01:11:54 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1183 My boyfriend cheated on me and I don't know what to do, I love him and he loves me. But I don't know if it's worthwhile still being with him, when the trust that we had is now broken. I feel like I want to trust him, but I don't know if I can. Please help me Lara My boyfriend cheated on me and I don’t know what to do, I love him and he loves me. But I don’t know if it’s worthwhile still being with him, when the trust that we had is now broken. I feel like I want to trust him, but I don’t know if I can. Please help me
Lara

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1161 Love Guru Wed, 20 May 2009 08:44:03 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1161 The good part of this story is that she was honest right away and didn't hide this from you but the bad part is that you guys are left with the reality that she just slept with some guy. If she knew who the guy was then it might be a larger issue but if it was a random person she met in the bar and you are okay with forgiving her then make sure you fully forgive her otherwise this will continue to eat away at your relationship. The good part of this story is that she was honest right away and didn’t hide this from you but the bad part is that you guys are left with the reality that she just slept with some guy. If she knew who the guy was then it might be a larger issue but if it was a random person she met in the bar and you are okay with forgiving her then make sure you fully forgive her otherwise this will continue to eat away at your relationship.

]]> By: griffin http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1155 griffin Mon, 18 May 2009 23:09:14 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1155 yea, my girlfriend cheated on me a week ago was at the bar and got trashed, went back to a friends house and slept with him the next morning she tells me right away and is deeply deeply embarrassed and ashamed of herself. I believe she is sorry for what she did, but where do we take our relationship now?? plz help yea, my girlfriend cheated on me a week ago was at the bar and got trashed, went back to a friends house and slept with him the next morning she tells me right away and is deeply deeply embarrassed and ashamed of herself. I believe she is sorry for what she did, but where do we take our relationship now?? plz help

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1144 Love Guru Fri, 15 May 2009 05:47:43 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1144 My real honest advice to you is to move on and leave this relationship behind as a lesson and to not continue to let it emotionally drain you. She probably knew of her pregnancy which is why she felt inclined to tell you that she had cheated on you. It'll take a little time for you to get over this but in the end you should come out having learned a positive lesson from this relationship. The important piece to take away from this experience is that not all women are cheats so don't go into your next relationship scarred by this experience but to just take a little more time getting to really know your partner. My real honest advice to you is to move on and leave this relationship behind as a lesson and to not continue to let it emotionally drain you. She probably knew of her pregnancy which is why she felt inclined to tell you that she had cheated on you. It’ll take a little time for you to get over this but in the end you should come out having learned a positive lesson from this relationship. The important piece to take away from this experience is that not all women are cheats so don’t go into your next relationship scarred by this experience but to just take a little more time getting to really know your partner.

]]> By: a man torn apart http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1134 a man torn apart Thu, 14 May 2009 04:49:16 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1134 It's really hard to talk about this. She was everything I wanted and so much more. We always talked about how great our lives are gonna be together. How beautiful our children will be when we have them. Hell we even picked out names. At that point I fell in love. Blinded by it so much I did not know of the terrible terrible pain that was to come. I'm from Florida but I met her in North Carolina. I left in december & told her I will be back for her at the end of May. We went out for 10 months but she told me she cheated around 2 months ago. I forgave her because I believe in 2nd chances & I stilled loved her with every ounce of my being. A month later everything turns to hell & pure pain. She tells me she is pregnant with his kid. To top it off they are cousins but they did not know at the time. It hurts so much. Whats more, shortly before she told me that, I had bought her a ring which it doesn't take a scientist to know what I was going to do with it. Do you know how much balls it takes to ask that kind of question. She hurt me so bad, I still love her but now this baby is between us. All my beliefs about love & life burned in my skull in that moment. I still want to be with her but I do not want to raise a baby that belongs to the man that cheated with my girl. Please I am drained from depression and need immediate guidance. It’s really hard to talk about this. She was everything I wanted and so much more. We always talked about how great our lives are gonna be together. How beautiful our children will be when we have them. Hell we even picked out names. At that point I fell in love. Blinded by it so much I did not know of the terrible terrible pain that was to come. I’m from Florida but I met her in North Carolina. I left in december & told her I will be back for her at the end of May. We went out for 10 months but she told me she cheated around 2 months ago. I forgave her because I believe in 2nd chances & I stilled loved her with every ounce of my being. A month later everything turns to hell & pure pain. She tells me she is pregnant with his kid. To top it off they are cousins but they did not know at the time. It hurts so much. Whats more, shortly before she told me that, I had bought her a ring which it doesn’t take a scientist to know what I was going to do with it. Do you know how much balls it takes to ask that kind of question. She hurt me so bad, I still love her but now this baby is between us. All my beliefs about love & life burned in my skull in that moment. I still want to be with her but I do not want to raise a baby that belongs to the man that cheated with my girl. Please I am drained from depression and need immediate guidance.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1136 Love Guru Tue, 12 May 2009 22:50:46 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1136 Wow Daniel. Sounds like an emotional roller coaster but one that you signed up to be on. You need to understand that when your girl was getting back with her ex and breaking up with you that she was not decided yet on where her feelings and heart was. This happens a lot in relationships and you can't force the issue. The more you push the further the person will be from you. You can't look at the past as her cheating on you as she was torn between the two of you. You need to let her know that you fully forgive her so that you can enjoy your relationship otherwise you are just going to drive yourself crazy over it. You have endured this long so don't just waste it if you really have feelings for her and just can't be a man about it and take your ego out of the equation. Wow Daniel. Sounds like an emotional roller coaster but one that you signed up to be on. You need to understand that when your girl was getting back with her ex and breaking up with you that she was not decided yet on where her feelings and heart was. This happens a lot in relationships and you can’t force the issue. The more you push the further the person will be from you. You can’t look at the past as her cheating on you as she was torn between the two of you. You need to let her know that you fully forgive her so that you can enjoy your relationship otherwise you are just going to drive yourself crazy over it. You have endured this long so don’t just waste it if you really have feelings for her and just can’t be a man about it and take your ego out of the equation.

]]> By: Daniel http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1133 Daniel Sun, 10 May 2009 02:46:07 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1133 I'm in love with this girl and I'm still with her...but last year she cheated on me with her ex and when she told me I overreacted and broke up with her. It broke my heart. She cried a lot. She's really sensitive too which means she cries easily. Well after this happened a week later it was my birthday and on that day she went back out with her ex (the one she cheated with) and when I found out I was extremely furious and it broke my heart. Over the summer I tried to get back with her but I realized it wasn't going to happen because she was choosing her new boyfriend over me. I had to go to Mexico for 3 and half weeks and when I got back I have found out that she still had feelings for me and cried and cried because she wanted me back. She couldn't do it because she was still with her boyfriend. Then one time I went to her house to give her a late present and I kissed her. I thought she was going to pull away but she kissed me back..we were kissing for a lot like if we have never kissed...I was really happy. I remember when I saw her it made me feel happy but after 2 months he broke up with her. I knew the whole time he was playing her and I tried telling her but she didn't believe me. I remember being there for her when it broke her heart. We went back out but not for long because she wanted to go back out with her ex and she broke up with me. It broke my heart once again. I thought we were done for real now but a month later I found out she broke up with me because she thought I was cheating on her because of a myspace comment she saw me talking with this girl and somebody messaged her saying that I had sex with this other girl. It wasn't true though and she got back with me 2 days later after New Years. She realized I was the one she needed and that she loved me. Her ex tried to get back with her but she resisted. She has proven to me that she will never do that again but now I'm the one causing problems. I always call her a ho and a bitch because every time I remember what she did. It kills me and it makes her cry a lot. Right now me and my girl are in a fight about this again as I'm writing this comment. I just need a way to forget about the past, just a way. That's all I want. I’m in love with this girl and I’m still with her…but last year she cheated on me with her ex and when she told me I overreacted and broke up with her. It broke my heart. She cried a lot. She’s really sensitive too which means she cries easily. Well after this happened a week later it was my birthday and on that day she went back out with her ex (the one she cheated with) and when I found out I was extremely furious and it broke my heart. Over the summer I tried to get back with her but I realized it wasn’t going to happen because she was choosing her new boyfriend over me. I had to go to Mexico for 3 and half weeks and when I got back I have found out that she still had feelings for me and cried and cried because she wanted me back. She couldn’t do it because she was still with her boyfriend. Then one time I went to her house to give her a late present and I kissed her. I thought she was going to pull away but she kissed me back..we were kissing for a lot like if we have never kissed…I was really happy. I remember when I saw her it made me feel happy but after 2 months he broke up with her. I knew the whole time he was playing her and I tried telling her but she didn’t believe me. I remember being there for her when it broke her heart. We went back out but not for long because she wanted to go back out with her ex and she broke up with me. It broke my heart once again. I thought we were done for real now but a month later I found out she broke up with me because she thought I was cheating on her because of a myspace comment she saw me talking with this girl and somebody messaged her saying that I had sex with this other girl. It wasn’t true though and she got back with me 2 days later after New Years. She realized I was the one she needed and that she loved me. Her ex tried to get back with her but she resisted. She has proven to me that she will never do that again but now I’m the one causing problems. I always call her a ho and a bitch because every time I remember what she did. It kills me and it makes her cry a lot. Right now me and my girl are in a fight about this again as I’m writing this comment. I just need a way to forget about the past, just a way. That’s all I want.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1131 Love Guru Fri, 08 May 2009 01:12:47 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1131 First of all you really need to get down to the bottom of the truth with your best friend and have a heart to heart with her and if you feel that she is really lying then you need to distance yourself from her. You don't need friends like that around you. As far as your baby's daddy goes, you also need to sit down with him and his family to see how committed and mature he is going to be with your relationship from this point on so you don't put yourself out there emotionally without the same feelings in return. First of all you really need to get down to the bottom of the truth with your best friend and have a heart to heart with her and if you feel that she is really lying then you need to distance yourself from her. You don’t need friends like that around you. As far as your baby’s daddy goes, you also need to sit down with him and his family to see how committed and mature he is going to be with your relationship from this point on so you don’t put yourself out there emotionally without the same feelings in return.

]]> By: charlotte http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1127 charlotte Thu, 07 May 2009 12:55:19 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1127 Hi, my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend he has sexual intercourse with her and said that was it but I still think he had sex with her, but she denies it all. He always says sorry but there has been other times I've caught him texting other girls under boys names in his phone. I'm also 6 months pregnant with his baby and I'm really scared. What should I do? I love him so much I just don't think he loves me. Please help? Hi, my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend he has sexual intercourse with her and said that was it but I still think he had sex with her, but she denies it all. He always says sorry but there has been other times I’ve caught him texting other girls under boys names in his phone. I’m also 6 months pregnant with his baby and I’m really scared. What should I do? I love him so much I just don’t think he loves me. Please help?

]]> By: Guy Hearm http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1119 Guy Hearm Fri, 01 May 2009 02:40:39 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1119 If a girl/guy cheats on you, break up with them. If my girl ever cheated on me I would just tell her to beat it. I always worry about her cheating on me. Maybe its because I am OCD and can't stop obsessing over stupid minute details. Once a cheater always a cheater, if you want to get cheated on and your heart broken again, keep dating him/her. If not, break up with them! If they cheat on you it means they obviously don't love you anyway. Find someone who really cares. If a girl/guy cheats on you, break up with them. If my girl ever cheated on me I would just tell her to beat it. I always worry about her cheating on me. Maybe its because I am OCD and can’t stop obsessing over stupid minute details. Once a cheater always a cheater, if you want to get cheated on and your heart broken again, keep dating him/her. If not, break up with them! If they cheat on you it means they obviously don’t love you anyway. Find someone who really cares.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1090 Love Guru Thu, 16 Apr 2009 18:38:50 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1090 Brad - I think all of the writing on the wall is here with this one. You probably don't feel like you love her because of this betrayal. I would cut your loses here so you don't waste anymore of your life in this relationship. I stayed in a 6 year relationship that I should have ended after 3 years. Life is too short and there are way too many women out there to be hung up on this one. She has shown you her cards and you need to make a move now. Brad – I think all of the writing on the wall is here with this one. You probably don’t feel like you love her because of this betrayal. I would cut your loses here so you don’t waste anymore of your life in this relationship. I stayed in a 6 year relationship that I should have ended after 3 years. Life is too short and there are way too many women out there to be hung up on this one. She has shown you her cards and you need to make a move now.

]]> By: juan http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1089 juan Thu, 16 Apr 2009 18:26:42 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1089 I use to be a player ass gang member that like to go out with a lot of girls n played them all then came a short beautiful short chunky girl that change my life around I stopped gangbangin n stop being a player she took me in as a player n risked it just so she could love me n then I got played all crazy I did not break up with her n it was hard but if u love someone n if they r sorry they deserve 1 last chance. I use to be a player ass gang member that like to go out with a lot of girls n played them all then came a short beautiful short chunky girl that change my life around I stopped gangbangin n stop being a player she took me in as a player n risked it just so she could love me n then I got played all crazy I did not break up with her n it was hard but if u love someone n if they r sorry they deserve 1 last chance.

]]> By: Brad http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1086 Brad Thu, 16 Apr 2009 14:45:20 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1086 Hi - About 6 months ago I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with her boss. We stayed together and I have asked here to leave her job and she still hasn't. To be honest my problem is that I don't know if I love her. Don't worry I need more help than this can give me. Hi – About 6 months ago I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years had been sleeping with her boss. We stayed together and I have asked here to leave her job and she still hasn’t. To be honest my problem is that I don’t know if I love her. Don’t worry I need more help than this can give me.

]]> By: Love Guru http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1082 Love Guru Wed, 15 Apr 2009 23:00:03 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1082 Joel - the big issue here is the long distance relationship that you guys are trying to maintain. She sounds like she is needy for intimacy so you need to make the decision to either move back to be closer to her or accept that she will continue to cheat on you without no real excuse except that she needs to be fulfilled physically in your absence. If you are okay with an open relationship then you just need to make sure that you don't get jealous when this is happening and that she is protecting herself. Joel – the big issue here is the long distance relationship that you guys are trying to maintain. She sounds like she is needy for intimacy so you need to make the decision to either move back to be closer to her or accept that she will continue to cheat on you without no real excuse except that she needs to be fulfilled physically in your absence. If you are okay with an open relationship then you just need to make sure that you don’t get jealous when this is happening and that she is protecting herself.

]]> By: joel http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-882 joel Wed, 15 Apr 2009 22:43:30 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-882 Hi, my name is Joel and I live in florida but I just moved away from my girlfriend that lives in New Jersey and I recently found out for the first time ever that she cheated on me. Some guy messed around with her and I asked her why she didn't stop him and she said she was caught up in the moment. We're both very much in love with each other and I can't stand not being with her but I'm going back and I need some wise words of what to do. Please help? Hi, my name is Joel and I live in florida but I just moved away from my girlfriend that lives in New Jersey and I recently found out for the first time ever that she cheated on me. Some guy messed around with her and I asked her why she didn’t stop him and she said she was caught up in the moment. We’re both very much in love with each other and I can’t stand not being with her but I’m going back and I need some wise words of what to do. Please help?

]]> By: admin http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1081 admin Wed, 15 Apr 2009 22:42:38 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1081 I wouldn't let the "I was so drunk" excuse go for this one. It is one thing to get super wasted and make out with a girl or grind on them on the dance floor but going home with them crosses all boundaries and whomever he was drinking with should have been looking out for him and making sure something like this would happen. If he says that he only slept in her bed he is just softening the blow to you. I would just make sure he used a condom if you are sticking around. I wouldn’t let the “I was so drunk” excuse go for this one. It is one thing to get super wasted and make out with a girl or grind on them on the dance floor but going home with them crosses all boundaries and whomever he was drinking with should have been looking out for him and making sure something like this would happen. If he says that he only slept in her bed he is just softening the blow to you. I would just make sure he used a condom if you are sticking around.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-1080 Sarah Wed, 15 Apr 2009 21:04:24 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-1080 My boyfriend got really drunk, and nearly slept with another woman. Before it got to full intercourse, he stopped it and said he couldn't go through with it, because he was with me. However, he still slept in her bed, and cuddled with her until the morning, because he said he 'felt sorry' for her. She was a total Stranger. He doesn't know why he did it, and can barely remember much of it as he was so drunk ( he rarely drinks). I don't know what to think- I'm still here, but only just. Is this any different than it would be if he had properly slept with her, and not given into his conscience? My boyfriend got really drunk, and nearly slept with another woman. Before it got to full intercourse, he stopped it and said he couldn’t go through with it, because he was with me. However, he still slept in her bed, and cuddled with her until the morning, because he said he ‘felt sorry’ for her. She was a total Stranger. He doesn’t know why he did it, and can barely remember much of it as he was so drunk ( he rarely drinks). I don’t know what to think- I’m still here, but only just. Is this any different than it would be if he had properly slept with her, and not given into his conscience?

]]> By: admin http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-838 admin Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:07:43 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-838 Kim - I would tread lightly here with this guy and maybe take out the emotional part so you don't fall head over heals with him and just end up hurt in the end. If you like being with him and don't mind the exclusivity bit then just have a little fun with it but if you are seriously bothered by him being with other girls then end it now on the physical side of things even with the kissing. He might need a little time to mature and realize that he can't be in a real relationship and play these games. At least he is being honest with you now that you caught him about not wanting to be with only one person. I think that is a big enough signal that things might just not work out right now. Kim – I would tread lightly here with this guy and maybe take out the emotional part so you don’t fall head over heals with him and just end up hurt in the end. If you like being with him and don’t mind the exclusivity bit then just have a little fun with it but if you are seriously bothered by him being with other girls then end it now on the physical side of things even with the kissing. He might need a little time to mature and realize that he can’t be in a real relationship and play these games. At least he is being honest with you now that you caught him about not wanting to be with only one person. I think that is a big enough signal that things might just not work out right now.

]]> By: Kimm http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-837 Kimm Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:57:57 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-837 Okay I was out with this guy and although I didn't fully trust him as I knew before I got with him he had more then one girl on the go. Thing is a week into the relationship he kisses another girl he thinks I dunno. Turns out I do and I confront him about it and he says "There's nothing to say about it". I then agreed to stay with him but after leaving to go home I get a text saying "It's over that he can't just be with one person". Then today , the next day after, he asks to meet up with me to make amends. He goes on about how he can't just be with me and asks me what I want to do about us. I love him but I'm furious with him and I dunno what to do. Worse of all after all this I let him kiss me and now I'm kicking myself for it. What should I do? I wanna be with him but not with all the other girls as well. :( help! Okay I was out with this guy and although I didn’t fully trust him as I knew before I got with him he had more then one girl on the go. Thing is a week into the relationship he kisses another girl he thinks I dunno. Turns out I do and I confront him about it and he says “There’s nothing to say about it”. I then agreed to stay with him but after leaving to go home I get a text saying “It’s over that he can’t just be with one person”. Then today , the next day after, he asks to meet up with me to make amends. He goes on about how he can’t just be with me and asks me what I want to do about us. I love him but I’m furious with him and I dunno what to do. Worse of all after all this I let him kiss me and now I’m kicking myself for it. What should I do? I wanna be with him but not with all the other girls as well. :( help!

]]> By: Heartbroken http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-829 Heartbroken Tue, 24 Mar 2009 08:21:42 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-829 My girlfriend of one year and 3 months cheated on me. I know there was absolutely no reason for her to be unhappy with our relationship, but she did it anyways. I will never forget this hurt and betrayal. I just needed to get this off my chest. My girlfriend of one year and 3 months cheated on me. I know there was absolutely no reason for her to be unhappy with our relationship, but she did it anyways. I will never forget this hurt and betrayal. I just needed to get this off my chest.

]]> By: Raymond http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-683 Raymond Tue, 17 Mar 2009 12:34:17 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-683 Look I don't want a response but I have a girl for a year and 4 months... I found out she sorta cheated on me and it hurt but I loved her so much I just wanted to work through it, we did and got back together then in 4 days she said she didn't want to be together but she couldn't breakup with me so I wanted her to be happy, so I did it for her ..... I'm devastated, hurt and just can get her outta my mind so no matter what you say I'll love her forever and I'll never forget her and I'm always going to try to get her back. Look I don’t want a response but I have a girl for a year and 4 months… I found out she sorta cheated on me and it hurt but I loved her so much I just wanted to work through it, we did and got back together then in 4 days she said she didn’t want to be together but she couldn’t breakup with me so I wanted her to be happy, so I did it for her ….. I’m devastated, hurt and just can get her outta my mind so no matter what you say I’ll love her forever and I’ll never forget her and I’m always going to try to get her back.

]]> By: Chris http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-655 Chris Thu, 12 Mar 2009 05:41:49 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-655 My girlfriend cheated on me after 7 months of dating pretty much, we were doing pretty good and everything... But she liked this other guy and she never really told me about it, she always pointed him out in the halls and said that she hated the guy... But one night she got drunk with him and slept with him... She told me Monday and then broke up with me... I still love her but she wants to be friends... But she told me that shes going out with him now, and I don't quite think I can stay with her (friendship wise) anymore, I love her and if I can't have her as a girlfriend then I don't think I want her as a friend... It would go against my... I can't remember what its called... It would go against what I feel for her. But if she wants this guy and shes happy with him then I will be happy for her... I just need help on what I should do now, because im at a loss right now and I have no idea what to do... Im very open and tomorrow I think I will just tell her what I just told all of you, hopefully it will get better. My girlfriend cheated on me after 7 months of dating pretty much, we were doing pretty good and everything… But she liked this other guy and she never really told me about it, she always pointed him out in the halls and said that she hated the guy… But one night she got drunk with him and slept with him… She told me Monday and then broke up with me… I still love her but she wants to be friends… But she told me that shes going out with him now, and I don’t quite think I can stay with her (friendship wise) anymore, I love her and if I can’t have her as a girlfriend then I don’t think I want her as a friend… It would go against my… I can’t remember what its called… It would go against what I feel for her. But if she wants this guy and shes happy with him then I will be happy for her… I just need help on what I should do now, because im at a loss right now and I have no idea what to do… Im very open and tomorrow I think I will just tell her what I just told all of you, hopefully it will get better.

]]> By: admin http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-644 admin Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:57:24 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-644 Sounds like he is just string you along. I would just ignore him a bit and keep your options open. Men don't like competition and if he thinks that you might not be interested in him anymore then maybe he'll stop playing the field and settle down. Anyone who breaks up a day after making a commitment is a bit confused. Take a couple steps back and it'll start to be a little clearer as to what his intentions are. Sounds like he is just string you along. I would just ignore him a bit and keep your options open. Men don’t like competition and if he thinks that you might not be interested in him anymore then maybe he’ll stop playing the field and settle down. Anyone who breaks up a day after making a commitment is a bit confused. Take a couple steps back and it’ll start to be a little clearer as to what his intentions are.

]]> By: mary http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-642 mary Sun, 08 Mar 2009 01:35:32 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-642 okay i like this boy we known eachother almost a month already. But before he wanted to be offical to be in a relationship. Before he didn't want to rush into things so i agreed on the same. But then he broke up with me the next day and said he wan't ready and that he doesn't wants to break my heart. We are still talking and etc but we act just like a couple and we are not he went to my house before and met my parents and then i went to his house. I am not dumb to "do it" with him. But like i seen on his myspace page this girl he has he talks to and she writes "do you tell all those girls that?" he has a habit of saying the sweetest stuff but to me it's sweetalking to confuse the girl. So i asked him does he talks to other girls so i don't have to waste my time waiting for him to be a couple. He does want us to be offical he keeps giving me hints about us in a relationship so idk??? okay i like this boy we known eachother almost a month already. But before he wanted to be offical to be in a relationship. Before he didn’t want to rush into things so i agreed on the same. But then he broke up with me the next day and said he wan’t ready and that he doesn’t wants to break my heart. We are still talking and etc but we act just like a couple and we are not he went to my house before and met my parents and then i went to his house. I am not dumb to “do it” with him. But like i seen on his myspace page this girl he has he talks to and she writes “do you tell all those girls that?” he has a habit of saying the sweetest stuff but to me it’s sweetalking to confuse the girl. So i asked him does he talks to other girls so i don’t have to waste my time waiting for him to be a couple. He does want us to be offical he keeps giving me hints about us in a relationship so idk???

]]> By: Dylan http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-625 Dylan Tue, 03 Mar 2009 12:56:46 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-625 Im 14yrs old. I have a girlfriend who i am truly in love with. Thimg is, i told her i loved her and she said it back. I told her again and she said it back. She was lying. She cheated on me the other day by going out with 2 16yr old guys. Im worried sick that this could ruin my relationship. Im also worried that she might get hurt. I mean, it's 2 16yr olds that can drive and see her anytime they want, and what if she refuses to give them what they want and they decide to take what they want or punish her for not giving it to them. Please help me...I have no idea what i can do to save myself and her. Im 14yrs old. I have a girlfriend who i am truly in love with. Thimg is, i told her i loved her and she said it back. I told her again and she said it back. She was lying. She cheated on me the other day by going out with 2 16yr old guys. Im worried sick that this could ruin my relationship. Im also worried that she might get hurt. I mean, it’s 2 16yr olds that can drive and see her anytime they want, and what if she refuses to give them what they want and they decide to take what they want or punish her for not giving it to them. Please help me…I have no idea what i can do to save myself and her.

]]> By: Matt http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-623 Matt Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:24:44 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-623 I broke up with my girlfriend and i still loved her but needed space. She is not a whore, but choose to screw like 5 other guys when we broke up. I still love her and she says she wants to be together but i dont know if i can get over the kind of person she choose to be when we werent dating.....HELP plz I broke up with my girlfriend and i still loved her but needed space. She is not a whore, but choose to screw like 5 other guys when we broke up. I still love her and she says she wants to be together but i dont know if i can get over the kind of person she choose to be when we werent dating…..HELP plz

]]> By: john http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-607 john Thu, 26 Feb 2009 04:45:52 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-607 My girl went to Jamaica and cheated with bartender she was only there for 7 days. What should I do now that my girl cheated on me? My girl went to Jamaica and cheated with bartender she was only there for 7 days. What should I do now that my girl cheated on me?

]]> By: jerry http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-603 jerry Wed, 25 Feb 2009 16:24:43 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-603 well my girlfriend cheated on me 2 or 3 day after we went out by having sexy with another guy. i never really would have expected that from her n the only reason she told me was because she thought she was pregnant from him. i didnt brake up with her cuz i thought it was mine but now it turns out that she not but ever sense i we have been talking about it n she told me when we went out she didnt care about anything but know she said she cant live with out me cuz i changed her n treated her the best like no other guy. i lover her so much but i dont know wat to do because everything she tells me i think she is lying to me but at the same time i dont so plz Email me n give some advice well my girlfriend cheated on me 2 or 3 day after we went out by having sexy with another guy. i never really would have expected that from her n the only reason she told me was because she thought she was pregnant from him. i didnt brake up with her cuz i thought it was mine but now it turns out that she not but ever sense i we have been talking about it n she told me when we went out she didnt care about anything but know she said she cant live with out me cuz i changed her n treated her the best like no other guy. i lover her so much but i dont know wat to do because everything she tells me i think she is lying to me but at the same time i dont so plz Email me n give some advice

]]> By: Chan http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-587 Chan Wed, 18 Feb 2009 03:12:50 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-587 My girlfriend cheated on me and it's hard to ever think of us reall being together but it gets worse because right now we live together and I have no where to go. I don't know how to deal My girlfriend cheated on me and it’s hard to ever think of us reall being together but it gets worse because right now we live together and I have no where to go. I don’t know how to deal

]]> By: oneilia http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-572 oneilia Sat, 14 Feb 2009 02:47:25 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-572 my boyfriend cheated when we just met by kissing another girl and now hes cheating on me again. i am only 14yrs old and i am madly in love with this guy he treats me the best i don't get to go on dates with him but we talk a lot over the phone he talks about my education and he doesn't want anything physical he is my first and i want him to be my last please tell me what to do. my boyfriend cheated when we just met by kissing another girl and now hes cheating on me again. i am only 14yrs old and i am madly in love with this guy he treats me the best i don’t get to go on dates with him but we talk a lot over the phone he talks about my education and he doesn’t want anything physical he is my first and i want him to be my last please tell me what to do.

]]> By: Emmy http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-562 Emmy Sat, 07 Feb 2009 02:08:52 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-562 My boyfriend of two years had sex with another girl twice. He's being extremely sincere about it. I know deep down I have hope of one day being with him again. I hope he will be the guy of my dreams as he once was. Though, He did lie about it for a month and I had to figure it out from his friend. He even denied it for a little while. I dont know whether to believe him. He has lied and hurt me plenty of times but has never gone this far. I'm in love with him and he says that he's still in love with me. I'm scared and I really need help. My boyfriend of two years had sex with another girl twice.
He’s being extremely sincere about it.
I know deep down I have hope of one day being with him again. I hope he will be the guy of my dreams as he once was.
Though, He did lie about it for a month and I had to figure it out from his friend.
He even denied it for a little while.
I dont know whether to believe him.
He has lied and hurt me plenty of times but has never gone this far.
I’m in love with him and he says that he’s still in love with me.
I’m scared and I really need help.

]]> By: Sam http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-537 Sam Tue, 27 Jan 2009 14:38:14 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-537 Hi my girlfriend cheated on me thinking I would not find out myself but I proved her wrong by confronting the guy she was dating and we called her and talked to her. But I still love her so much. Hi my girlfriend cheated on me thinking I would not find out myself but I proved her wrong by confronting the guy she was dating and we called her and talked to her. But I still love her so much.

]]> By: Raul http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-532 Raul Sun, 25 Jan 2009 14:22:35 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-532 There is no need to cheat in a relationship i just found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I feel like she took a piece of my heart. You can't be with two people at the same time and say you love one and want to be with the other one. There is no need to cheat in a relationship i just found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I feel like she took a piece of my heart. You can’t be with two people at the same time and say you love one and want to be with the other one.

]]> By: Dennis http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-513 Dennis Tue, 20 Jan 2009 07:47:04 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-513 People should stop cheating on each other and keep their promises. People should stop cheating on each other and keep their promises.

]]> By: Mind Over Matter http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-457 Mind Over Matter Thu, 08 Jan 2009 09:11:02 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-457 Anybody who cheats should kill him/herself. Anybody who cheats should kill him/herself.

]]> By: ian trent http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-432 ian trent Thu, 01 Jan 2009 04:16:05 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-432 my girlfriend cheated on me. I never really had trust in her anymore after that but I still love her. But I know it will never be the same my girlfriend cheated on me. I never really had trust in her anymore after that but I still love her. But I know it will never be the same

]]> By: isaac http://www.lovesites.com/what-do-you-do-if-your-lover-cheats-on-you/comment-page-1#comment-377 isaac Sun, 14 Dec 2008 18:49:10 +0000 http://www.lovesites.com/?p=172#comment-377 Dear Sirs, I'm only 12 and I just got told that my girlfriend kissed someone else while playing a game of dares and I just feel exposed and betrayed and I don't know what to do. I know it was a dare and I'm sure she didn't mean it but he was older and that just leaves me worried that he might come back and try get more than she bargained for and hurt her or something and I'm just worried sick. Please write back or email me with an answer to my dilemmas. -Isaac Dear Sirs,

I’m only 12 and I just got told that my girlfriend kissed someone else while playing a game of dares and I just feel exposed and betrayed and I don’t know what to do. I know it was a dare and I’m sure she didn’t mean it but he was older and that just leaves me worried that he might come back and try get more than she bargained for and hurt her or something and I’m just worried sick. Please write back or email me with an answer to my dilemmas.

-Isaac

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