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Last night as I sat alone at my boyfriend’s apartment, recovering from a horrendous cold/flu/death-by-runny-nose-type-thing, I found myself bored out of my mind with nothing but my MacBook to keep me entertained. Minutes later I was searching through NBC’s streaming episodes when I found it… the latest bachelor reality called “Age of Love.” In this kooky new series, one 30 year old bachelor is left to find love amidst a batch of 40 something women and a second group of women in their 20s. I was immediately addicted to this guilty pleasure and the whole controversy of the show… does age really matter when it comes to love? Can a relationship with an older woman and a younger man really work?

As the women see it…

Recent polls show nearly 1/3 of women ages 40-69 are dating men at least ten years younger than they are. These days women have more options in everything from careers to, yes, men and why would they settle for anything less than what they want? Reasons for this new trend are numerous, but some of the obvious are as follows:

• Women are looking better and better in their later years and are feeling attractive longer.
• Women who have put off a family while pursuing a career are single and available.
• Women who have been recently divorced or widowed find themselves wanting to date again
• Women are ignoring social taboos and deciding what they want for themselves, for whatever reasons they want it.
• Some women are just plain attracted to younger men and want to have fun

As the men see it…

Of course there are many young men who in their college years do nothing but party and drink… and… party and drink, however what society has failed to recognize is that there are those young gentlemen who are more emotionally secure and mature than one would think. These men are the ones, who for various reasons are interested in dating older women. Here are some pluses they see in being with more mature women:

• Women with character and life experiences are more interesting.
• Older women are more experienced in the ways of love and often are more comfortable with who they are.
• Older women tend to be more financially secure and can afford to pay their portion of the dinner/rent/utility/etc. bill.
• Women who have had more years to get to know themselves are more emotionally secure and are not as high maintenance as their younger counterparts.
• Some men are just plain attracted to older women and are not ashamed to say so.
• When its love, its love. As one young man at my office put it, “Women come in all ages, shapes, and sizes.”

So there you go, there is no “Perfect Combination” but there are many numerous dating situations foster love and if dating an older woman/younger man is what works for you, go for it! Log on to match.com or chemisrty.com and find that perfect someone!